Flabbergasted and pissed
 

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

Yes, you have a valid reason to be pissed.

The bigger question, however, is, "Men attend 'bridal' parties?"

The guy sounds like a first class douche bag and should have been out of your life along time ago. You took it very easy on him to be honest.

If it was that easy to take a cab...

why did you care in the first place?

How much was the cab fare?

Seriously...

If the cab was REALLY that easy AND an option...how was this a big deal at all?

You're absolutely right. I regret even saying yes to be a part of his wedding.

You lost me at 'part of the bridal party'.

Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

A real man wouldn't have started this thread to bitch and moan. Go ahead and cut him out of all your pictures and re-upload them to facebook though, honey. You'll feel better.

Cab fare was 60 bucks.

But that's not the point. It's the treatment received.

It was about him being a snake about something, and not being open, honest, and considerate towards me. I acted nice, considerate and did a favor for him, and when I asked him for something back in return I pretty much get abit of f*** you I don't give a sh*t attitude...that pretty much explains the hated and the rage.

that's a big deal to me.

i believe it's more about the guy's attitude ... "you help me, but you are on your own"

Pretty trivial thing to get pissed about.

umm ... i think he means 'bridal party' as being a bridesmaid or groomsmen.

technically it's 'Grooms party' for the guys and bridal party for the girls

i think :shrug:

Yes, as in being a groomsmen...I meant grooms party..Thanks for clearing that up.

How so?

Every time I walk out my door I have a plan in place to get home, because I know I'm a wastoid. Me getting home is no ones problem but my own, and I own it. I actually look at as a challenge, like the Predator, my mission is to get home. I wouldn't rely on a guy to save my life in the jungle, I don't rely on anyone to get me home on a Saturday.

Dont know that it's trivial but from how you described the relationship before this incident, sounds like you shouldn't have expected much else.:shrug:

What do you mean "how so"? It just isn't very significant.

Im asking you your reason or opinion on how or maybe I should why you think this is a trival thing to get upset about?

Because you're out 60 dollars in cab fare. BFD.

Believe me, I don't.

Last night though, was kinda like a final blow.

Im not upset about the 60 bucks you idiot.

You're probably a very nice guy, but if you allow yourself to be a target, you should expect to get hit.

Very, very little chance I do the above.

I know. You're upset because this guy who got married didn't want to listen to your whining on his wedding day and suggested several options to get you back to your car, but you wanted a bus or something to take you back. It's trivial bullshit. You want to start the namecalling, you sound like a whiny little bitch over the whole thing.

"IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"
I'd be like the bitch he treats you like/ never forget and throw those words in his face when he asks for anything
I'd have it printed on the underside of a ball cap brim and have it ready to flip in his general direction

Its your bros fault for your womanly expectation that you'd be "taken care of". You should choose better friends that set the expectations that its my wedding, we're getting ****ed up, and what happens after that is on you.

I always thought the whole group was referred to as a 'wedding party'.

I know people who act like that. They're called "family."

Piihwb?
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Were you pmsing? Cuz that's what it sounds like to me. Bum a ride, take a cab whatever. And pouring drinks before the wedding, jeez.

Oh, and as far as the incident in question, he should've at least warned you that you'd need to find your own ride home, or you should've asked when you were told you'd be taken there in a limo. But details like that can easily get overlooked, all the shit the bride and groom have to deal with is pretty overwhelming. I'd have to cut the guy a break in this situation.

Sorry about the name calling.

But Laz pointed it out.

The rage is all about the attitude. You do favors for a guy, and then when it comes to you its eff you. A lot of people would be pissed in cases like that.

So put yourself in my shoes before you begin to make ignorant comments.

I'm not sure why your buddy had more important things on mind during his wedding night than getting you home.

fuccccckkkk leach losers,you dont even always notice one when there are bigger ones around.do like i did, dump your wife and it will be like you bought a new pair of glasses.ex gone new woman in life,all better.

Eric Berry would have found you a ride home
you just need to loose your Dez Bryant friends

Well, yeah exactly.

If he would of at least told me Im responsible for finding my way back home, that would have been decent to say the least. I could respect that.

Are you trying to become the new village idiot here?

Did you ask him to wipe your ass too?

But like I said, shit like that can get lost in the shuffle. He definitely should've been more helpful when presented with the issue though, I'll give you that much.

I should of because then I would of used that napkin to wipe your face.

My best bro could've promised me a horse drawn carriage and I still would've had my own plan in place, but I'm just proficient that way. AKA having a ****ing brain.

You wipe your ass with napkins? No wonder you have to rely on others to find your way home.

Your responses in this thread clearly reflect off of responsibility. That was never the issue. But I just got more of a feel and hate towards douchebag types.

The situation as a whole clearly brings out the true colours of that person I was dealing with. Its about how people respond to you in particular situations. you've got your point across, you can do things yourself and take care of yourself. Fine.

Only when Im out of toilet paper.

Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but it sounds like someone made a mistake and didn't think through the consequence of sending the Limo driver home early. Why is there such drama about that? On either side?

Was it just drunken drama? Or am I missing something deeper?

Douche move on his part? Yeah. An understandable thing to overlook? Yeah. He should have been more apologetic. Other than that...meh.
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Overlook? Is that a euphemism for "broke"?

Apparently the dude couldn't swing the cost of his own reception or honeymoon. Thus expecting him to have the limo waiting seems pretty unlikely.

The dude even reserved tuxedo's, and made us pay $144 bucks for them.

Oh and he ordered them without shoes too!:mad:

*Cheapa** mother****er

I must not be missing anything. Or if I am, I'm not alone.

That's pretty typical. I was suprised the first time that happened to me. But it's been every single wedding I've been in.

In my own, I didn't ask anyone in the party to stand with me in a tux. Just had them get up during the ceremony and talk for a minute in their regular clothes, then sit back down. Cheap, easy and fun.

That's pretty standard. It's what you sign up for when you agree to be a best man/groomsman/usher. The women normally have to buy their dresses as well.

Really?

I've been in a few wedding parties and that one was a first for me. I too was surprised, but now that you tell me it has happened to you on numerous counts it may seem like a common thingy.

Wow, you sound like a whiny crybaby.

First off, wedding day is very stressful for both the bride and groom. It's a nerve-racking process that usually takes about a year to plan. You are responsible for your own transportation and if there were any questions, you should have brought them up at an earlier date, even during the rehearsal. And complaining about the bride taking care of family from Greece? Are you insane?

Secondly, every wedding in which I've been a groomsman or usher, I've paid for the tuxedo myself. In cases where the wedding was in a completely different state or city, a local tux shop measures for the suit and shoes, and that is faxed to a shop where the wedding takes place. That said, I paid for the tuxedos for my groomsmen and ushers because most were coming in from out of state on their own dime. But it is NOT unusual to pay for your own tuxedo.

Go to Walgrens and pick up some Midol. You need it.

Jeez... someone has to stop by and change your pampers. That has been the case for every single wedding I have ever been a part of.

I just thought it was funny how he was complaining about the transportation thing...and then the groom went out of his way to try and get him a ride with some other dudes that had transportation...only for that not to be acceptable and him take a cab and bail out!

If a cab was an option the whole time...why was this ever a big deal? That's what I didn't get...

Okay gimme a f***ing break I didn't know it was a common thing.

Get the sand out of your vagina. It was his fucking wedding night for Christ's sakes.

If you ever whine about this to him, he would be justified in immediately dropping you from his friend list.

English Mother fucker! :shake:

F*** off dude...i do not have much experience as you or as others in parties..and just because you do or your opinions stand different what gives you the right to insult me?

You're pissy about the groom not giving you a ride home on his wedding night?

**** me.

Insult you?

You're acting like a whiny bitch. How can you be 32 years old and not know wedding etiquette?

JFC, I was in weddings when I was 12 years old but you don't know this shit at age 32?

Never go full reerun.

You seriously didn't expect this thread to go that way? STFU n00b.

So what?

Should that be an excuse on how you treat a friend? Good. you know something, I'd be thrilled if he dropped me as a friend, one less f***ing douchebag to deal with.

I'd bet he feels the same way

Well, at least I had the decency to ask if I have a good reason to complain.

I just do not know wedding etiquette as much as you. But of course your Dane McCloud and you just happen to know everything that exists.

JFC, should I really be arguing with Dane McCloud?

You're, not your.

No. There are few people who can. You are not one.

thanks

Get me this guys address and I'll put him on my weekly mailing list. Any idea what breed he likes more between Yorkshire and Duroc ? All my Hampshire sperm bags are spoken for .

Dane is God so I won't bother.

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You asked for our opinion, we gave it. You come off as a whiny little bitch who lets himself get used, then cries about it.

Posters here tend to not respond well to people like you. You really have two options here.

1. Keep slugging it out with the posters here. I'll tell you from past experience that most of the time you will lose that battle, especially when the consensus is against you.

2. Learn to be a man & not put yourself in a situation where your "friends" use you. Fend for yourself and always have a way out.

/thread

Revenge is a dish best served cold
don't cut him loose just yet
get your money's worth

Most of the time?

He should have paid for the tuxes. I would have been embarrased to make my friends pay for that after asking them to be a part of a big day in my life.




The ride is not that big of a deal.

Thanks for your opinion.

When you say consensus, I perceive that as wolves. I understand you're giving me a warning sign to not feed myself to the wolves around here. Appreciate that.

If you say you got it, lets end the thread then. You said what you had to say and did what you had to do. You gave your opinion, even though I don't agree with it 100%.

I guess best thing is not to say anything. But I do expect some of the wolves to say stuff to try to stir me up so the thread could be extended. The hard part will be resisting temptation. Tempted to say something back, but will try my hardest not to. If the wolves could shut the f*** up it would make my life, your life and everyone elses a lot easier.

/thread

At the least, he could have personally hooked you up with a ride with one of the other guests, but it's not worth getting bent out of shape over.

That wedding shit is pretty much
all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.

I say a groom has enough to worry about on his wedding night and you're a big boy.


I think you were being a chic about it.
You're a grown ass man, get a cab, hotel or a ride and move on like a big boy.

That wedding shit is pretty much
all for women anyway. She thought ahead and had her bus deal covered because it was family. Women got everybody helping them think of everything also. It most likely never even crossed his mind. The dude prolly didn't even want to do half of it himself. Prolly wanted to kill the mother-in-law at several points too. Giving him money to help is another issue, but let the ride thing go bro.

Seriously, what are you complaining about?

It sounds like you aren't versed in wedding responsibilities. Every single wedding I've been in resulted in me paying for the tux. I did my best to get discounts for my GM for my wedding, but they paid for it like I always have in weddings.

Secondly, you should have worked out transportation before hand. I think it's bad form on your part to get mad about this whole thing, when it could have been averted if you made plans prior. Carpool with someone, get a hotel somewhere, something should have been arranged prior. That's not the grooms responsibility.

It sounds like he's a dick, but I besides telling you like a dick, I fail to see the problem here.