Dear Chiefsplanet
 

Help me figure out this chick for a good friend of mine..

Ok, my friend was married for 16 years, his wife basically came home one day and said she did not want to be married anymore... So that's over... He has been legally separated for like 6 months now. He has 2 very well behaved children....


Ok here's the deal, the guy met a good looking woman about 3 months ago and she would like to come over in the mornings to his house and booty call him after all the kids go to school (he works nights too) and she was happy with that.

Background on her, she is very good looking , 35 years old but she has one major problem and that problem is her 2 kids from hell,(10 & 5) I mean these kids hit her, disrespect her and everybody she is around, run in restaurants , slam doors so hard you think they are coming off the hinges etc... imagine bad then add 10 times more to it... I mean really bad.

He is a very dedicated Dad and his kids come #1 in his life and she is mad because he will not spend more time with her, she is now withholding the promised land from him now trying to get her way.... Should he just dump her and move onto another woman who just wants to date? He has 3 or 4 scoping him out and want to date him. What do I tell this dumbass to prevent him from living a life of misery with this girl

Dude, there are so many red flags in those few paragraphs. Unless he is in love its time to move on.

Yes, he should. I've already tried it a few times and it doesn't work. If you and your kids can't get along with their kids, it will be nothing but headaches trying to keep that relationship afloat.

Dude this woman was dead set on getting her hooks in him... Dude comes out of a 16 yr marriage where for the last 5 years there has been very little affection from her, then this woman gives him all the sex he wants (or did) says all the right things, hugs on him and sends lovebug texts all day... He told her from day 1 he had to take care of his kids first and is one of those guys who don't waste a second in the day.... She wants more she says.... He told her in time it's a possibility but she wants it now... I told him to dump her ass and they are not talking right now until he has a weak moment and a itch in his pants of course....

He has asked me to text him to remind him how bad those kids are every day... He personally told me to beat his ass if he goes back with her....

I think the boy is pussy whipped personally but that girl is in love

Thats what I told him and this bitch resents his kids because of their good behavior.

She has been divorced for 6 years and claims her kids run every man off that she meets.... I know for a fact the kids are mean little bastards but you can't tell me they could run everyman off... This is a very good looking classy 35 yr old woman that he says loves marathon sex...

The crazy ones usually do.

I told him he ****ed up telling her all the things his ex wife didn't do, lack of affection, sex etc... Because this woman has zeroed in like a Laser on these areas to try to sink her claws in him... She is basically broke and he has his own home and a good job, very clean and responsible and is a good catch for a woman, she knows this but she has no idea how much she is scaring this guy off....

He would work nights and leave the door unlocked after the kids go to school and wake up to her naked in the bed beside him... Of course this rocked his world.

Tell him to run bitch that sound like a bad thing waiting to happen.

If this gal is so classy, then why are her kids so f'ed up? Sounds like she won't let him discipline her kids, even though they may be under his house at times. If that's verboten, then she and her youngins can GTFO.

There's always warm showers.

He has this school teacher after him too, she has never been married, no kids etc.... I told him she would be independent and would probably be smart enough and busy enough not to require his 100% attention 24/7... He don't like her as good though, she is not as hot as the crazy bitch.

Thats what I am talking about.... This oldest kid has a problem, animal abusing type kid, fat kid, and my friend is a small guy about 5"9 and about 150.. Just a small guy... I asked him whats he gonna do when that fat kid is 15 and weighs 200 lbs what the hell is he gonna do to him when he doesn't get his way. And no she says she don't need any help with her kids

He need **** tell her get **** out dump bitch hold tight

she does not live with him but texts his ass constantly

So did he slap her 11 year old daughter and get his spleen punched out this weekend?

No he won't touch her kids, he knows it is not his job but the way they hit on their Mom they deserve it...

I don't blame the kids, they have been without a male presence for years and are only doing what they are being allowed to do.

A good lawyer can heal a punched out spleen

I'm really going to be unable to provide my very desirable and 100% practical advice on this matter until I have sampled a taste of all 3 or 4 women who are in play. I am willing to waive my very substantial consulting fee this one time if we can make it happen in a week. You know how to reach me.

Your friend needs to learn to read the signs better.

Any normal man should be able to see the warning signs and know this woman is damaged goods. The saying about no matter how good looking a woman is, someone thinks she is a bitch is valid here. Someone else obviously isn't with her now for a reason....

Your friend needs to learn about party pussy, have some fun while being responsible to his kids. He doesn't have to be locked down with every doe he bucks.

Moreover,

Did you pay cash for this piece of ass for breakfast or charge it?

Dump that bitch... ohh and have the 10 year old hauled off to juvenile court for assault.

Oh he is the most responsible parent I know and has not chose this woman in any way over his kids... Thats why she has the major case of the ass with him right now...

He is awed by her beauty and his lack of physical affection from his marriage, he is out of the loop and does not quite grasp the single life well....

You are right

Charged it....

His ass needs to be somewhere

FYP

Just Damn...LMAO

+168. I was about to say the same thing. Plus, the guy has only been on his own for a few months. Lots of fish (no pun intended) in the sea.

Breakfast rings come in other flavors than Fruit loop
Tell her Cheerio

Run...

texting that now thank you

He's had the Honey Nut & the Fruit Loop
go for the doughnut

That will be tomorrows inspirational text

Tell the teacher is the way to go other wise we know we see her on the news...

LMAOLMAO

move on .. step-children that don't behave will do nothing but be a major pain ......

All he tells me is how smart she is and blah blah blah... We went out to eat with them and she is a 35 yr old woman that reminds me of like a 22 or 23 yr old .. She is a facebook queen and has all of these stupid sayings like Just Saying and True Story shit like that... Very Dramatic

She is very attractive but damn, she don't look good enough to put up with those kids.

Tying yourself down to one woman 6 months after a 16 year marriage is crazy IMO.

Move on. If he were to try and fix those two brats, some crazy ex might come over and put him in the hospital.

The kids are a direct reflection of her and she has a direct hand in molding them into what they are.

Move on and play the field.

I know a guy who married his HS sweetheart 6 months after divorce then divorced her <1 year later... not because of her but because her teenage daughters were driving him crazy.

If she is willing to keep it on the side, so she can get the poison out...God Bless Her.

He skipped town about 7 years ago never to be heard from since

If he's truly a responsible parent, he'll stop using the little head to think about his own sexual pleasures and start using the big head to think about the hell he'd be putting his kids through by keeping this broad and her little bastards around.

This could mean a couple of completely different things.
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As a friend till him to move on. Not worth it for a piece of ass. From someone without kids 20 plus yrs later who was in the boat.

Yep but thats the deal, he only hangs out with her when his kids are with their Mom, he is with his kids when they are with him and they are with him most of the time... He basically is bummed out because a hot chick is not interested in just booty calls and no inter mingling families LMAO

He does not want his kids around her kids because they don't like them, they are not snooty bratty kids they were just not brought up like that and so my bud don't force his kids to be with them nor will he pawn his kids off on a sitter or his parents to go out with her and she has a major case of the ass over it... He will go over to her house though with her kids there but says he feels like sticking forks in their heads after about 10 mins (of course he is joking)

"RUN!"

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The dude said the chick is amazing in bed and if it weren't for that I am sure he would have dumped her long ago

I hear what you're saying, but I can assure your friend that there are plenty of smokin' hot, nympho-like psychotic divorcees out there who don't have the same problem (out of control kids) that this woman has. He can find one that has a whole different set of accompanying baggage.

And she's already using that (or not using it) as a tactic.

Been there and done that. Not worth it long term. She is a cancer along worth her kids just make it worse. Like I said I have been there and done that...

Not trying to start anything being a voice of reason from someone who has been there.

I will tell him that later today, thanks

Hell yea see, his ex wife went cold for like the last 2 years, he told me he could count on 1 hand how many times he had sex with her that last 2 years. He said when she did have sex with him he felt like it was damn near rape or something as she was emotionless and just basically laid there.

I am sure he relayed this same info to this new chick so she ran with it, wild marathon sex, said he could touch here and kiss her for like 5 mins and she couldn't sit in a chair without sliding out of it... Stroked his fragile ego, made him feel like a man when his ex basically never showed him anything for the last 2 years....

I see where he is coming from but this woman is a Pro at it and I told him to think about this..

I told him if a woman as pretty and smoking hot as her was on the market, why hasn't she had many dates in 6 years....

No that's cool, I am feeling the same as you, just trying to be delicate and not piss him off because he is a good friend but 6 months ago he was down in the dumps on the phone with me (we both drive so we have plenty of free time to talk on phone) about how he thinks his life is over because the EX is gone, how he will probably die alone blah blah blah... Me like a dumbass got him hooked up on Facebook (he didn't have an account) Now this guy has women practically beating his door down to date him and he can't get away from this one crazy bitch with the hell children...

I don't get it

Sounds like her kids are going to grow up as Raiders Fans.

And now she is threatening to withhold it in order to get what she wants. If he is willing to give her what she wants in order to get his carrot wet, so be it.

She keeps luring his dumbass over to her house, he thinks he is going to get sex and the crazy bitch starts on his ass as soon as he gets out of the car..... He will learn one way or another

I do but you have to go thru it. Do your best.

Meh.... She maybe at the end of her rope, it does not appear this chick is used to not getting what she wants

Remind him that 35yo women have the libido have 20yo men. She's not the only one out there that likes to ****.

I've met plenty of these types since I've been divorced. This guy needs to just dump her cold turkey and probably just concentrate on his kids and get used to being single for a while before he goes out and jumps into a relationship with a crazy chick.

he just sent me a text and said she has not sent him a text since friday night so he may be good

Sounds right he has to be strong. My Ex did the same thing. It was only with my Mom saying it didn't look I was happy.

I like it....

If she stops texting him, go ahead and give me her # because I could use some of that marathon sex you were talking about. :evil:

I have to give him credit, she is pretty damn hot... LMAO I may hook you up and see if you can rehabilitate those future felons in her house

She is like the aids stay away.

Does the teacher wear glasses?

Can't remember but she is not as hot as the nutball

I think the guy ****ed up by letting the hot one know where he lives. She's going to be trouble for a long time, possibly messing up his shot at the teacher. He's got to make a clean break right now while she is playing the hard-to-get bullshit. Do the "we need to step back and slow things down" talk with her, let her blow up and storm out, then move on.

tell him invite the nutball over for a nice glass of wine and some "make up sex" then donkey punch that bitch.
problem solved.

You need a day job.

Oh yeah, lock your door every morning too. :hmmm:

If she hasn't sent a text since Friday and is a sex maniac, she could be gone. That's another possibility, that he might get attached....and get burned.

Seriously, if you were a single man and a knockout comes over to your house and wakes you up and is totally naked.... Are you going to lock her out? Seriously?

If she is just a **** buddy she should not be all that hard to cut loose. That is what they are there for, they serve their purpose, when you are done with them its well...bye time.

She has an agenda though

PS the dumbass texted her last night, so I get to hear about this shit for another week

Its that ****ing apple.

My initial instincts, like everyone else here, is to just move on and forget about her. But just to look at the other side for a minute, perhaps he should consider telling her what he thinks of her kids' behavior. Tell her that it needs to change or he's gone. Be honest. Let her know that he needs to be allowed to discipline them. I don't know, maybe he has already done this to no avail.

And I admit that I don't know how these things work as I have never been divorced. However, I was one of those kids from a divorce. I can tell you that I was not always pleasant to my mom's boyfriends. Once, we were supposed to go boating with my cousins on a Sunday afternoon. Her boyfriend at the time decided he didn't feel like it. I was so pissed because I was so looking forward to that. I kicked the shit out of his briefcase. It was a nice, expensive one. It was toast. :evil: I also got into a few confrontations (later on) with my step dad. I'm just saying that divorce is not always easy on the kids and just because they are acting out now does not mean they won't end up being productive members of society. Perhaps the good Lord has put your friend in this position to be a positive role model for these kids.

Dude does not live with her and has known her for only 3 months... it's not his job to discipline her kids, that's her job... I told him a few minutes ago he was a fool for falling for the first pretty face that comes along after coming from a 16 yr marriage that to be honest he isn't even over yet... The girls love the dude, it's not like he is a loser, Has a nice home, nice car, kinda a neat freak, a 25k bass boat in the garage and makes good money (he works with me) He just needs to slow down is what he needs more than anything....