My mom is sick
 

I guess she has something called Frontotemporal dementia. It's basically sudden onset Alzheimer's.

Yesterday she didn't even realize who I was



Oh god. :(

My deepest sympathies.

Jesus man. I’m sorry.

Just remember who she was not what she’s become.

How old is she ?

That's brutal. My prayers are with her and your family.

Sorry to hear

My Mom died of Alzheimer's. It's not a very pleasant way to go out. Just try to remember her when she was her, not the one now that can't remember who you are.

Don't freak out around her when she forgets something like who you are, it just makes her more scared of whats happening in her moments of lucidity. All you can do is just be loving. She might not know you but she understands that she knows you or loves you but doesn't understand how or why.

Look into her eyes for those moments of recognition.

Damn. That's simply awful.

As long as you realize who she is, you can continue to honor her. There's still enormous dignity in that.

I'm sorry, man.

Wow. That's rough. Prayers sent your way Jake. My advice take each day as it's own and don't try to look down of what might be to come. Enjoy each day you have with her as a blessing and remember the person she was not what the disease makes her become.

Prayers sent man, that's really rough. My grandma had Alzheimers and one thing my dad always did was a lot of activities to keep his mind engaged to try and make sure he wouldn't go down that road. He went a few years back and never had to go down that road thankfully. It's rough especially if you have kids, etc. that didn't get to know her when she was herself. I'll just mirror what others have said, remember who she was, talk to her like she knows you and don't get upset at the things she doesn't remember.

same - my mom had dementia - she is gone now.....it is really really tough. There are times you question why you go to visit her when she does not know who you are - you may not actually admit that to anyone - but you feel it. And that can be a tough bit of guilt to deal with....

Im really sorry man....

I have a loved one going through this...its extremely hard......

A couple pieces of advice that I have learned the hard way...if they say something like 'we are going to X , y or z' and it isnt true -- dont argue...just agree with them....I have a loved one who constantly thinks they are supposed to be going somewhere and I tried for a long time to explain and tell them that we werent and it felt weird to 'lie' and agree...but it was a big anxiety relief for them when i just started agreeing with their delusions.....instead of trying to fight them

and,try not to take it personally....its really tough

sign up for whatever services you can ...IHHS...etc....any type of support you can get because you might need it.

big hugs dude

Sorry to hear that but hopefully God will bless her with a full recovery.

Sorry Jake. Prayers outward and upward to you.

65

****....

thats way too young

8-(

I'm sorry to see this. My girlfriend's dad is going through it as well. He doesn't recognize anyone really at this point.

So sorry for that news thoughts and prayers and stay strong.

Hoping for the best... My mom is getting up there and having COPD issues(she is on constant oxygen now) and lives about 4 hours from me and 2 hours from my other brother. She doesn't have anyone living with her and she just doesn't have a ton of friends. The few she has live 30 or 40 minutes away. She is slightly reclusive. It just scares the shit out of me that she is all that way from anyone. I am really hoping to get a larger place here sooner rather than later and try and talk her into moving in with the wife and I.

Jake stay strong bro. I agree with what others are saying in try to remember her for who she was. Be as compassionate as you can even though it may be difficult at times.

Prayers and thoughts go out to you.

God Bless ya, Jake. I wish you and your Mom nothing but the best. You have a long hard road ahead of you. Prayers to the both of you.

I was very close to my Grandma and the same thing happened to her. I wouldn't wish it against my worst enemy.

My best advice is to have someone to talk to about what's happening because it's tough to deal with on your own. Maybe even consider going to a therapist because it can put a strain on all family relationships. I wish you and her all the best.

Sorry, Jake. Positive thoughts headed your way.

So sorry Jake, sending prayers and good vibes your way.

There's a lot of good advice already in this thread, take advantage of it. The Planet is a good place during times of need.

My grandmother had a stroke last year and I'm now starting to suspect that dementia is setting in. It sucks.

My mom is down that same path. She’s 73. It’s sad. She gets up out of bed to go in the living room and poop.

Yep. But you still go

Jake,

Thoughts and Prayers to your Mom and your family.

Thoughts and prayers your way, Jake.

So sorry to hear what you are going through.... stay strong for your Mom.... prayers sent..

Sorry to hear this. Prayers sent.
I am going through this with my Dad right now. He is 87. I stayed with him over the weekend because my Mom needed a break and it was a real eye opener. Instead of visiting twice a week I plan on getting over there much more often to let her get out of the asylum

This. My grandpa went the same way. Just spend as much time as you can and don’t let the little things get to you.

Sorry to hear Jake.

Damn man. Best wishes to you both. Alzheimer's can go **** itself

A good reminder for everyone with older loved ones to go see them and tell them you love them before something happens and you can't. I had an uncle that went through Alzheimer's and feel for your situation.

That’s terrible to hear... my grandmother lost her life that way. It was really rough on my dad. Just remember that any bad things you see or hear, it’s not your mom talking. She still loves you. Prayers for you and your family.

Sorry to hear that Jake, positive thoughts for you and your family.

My deepest condolences........ I wish I had something more helpful to say.

Its a proven fact, caregivers life expectancy is so much lower due to the undue stress it puts on them. Kudos to you for going over and trying to help. When my grandpa lost his mind, it was brutal, I was a teenager, and we went over there all the time to help cut grass, clean the house, wash dishes etc. He was the nicest, most polite docile man you would ever be around, very educated, never used curse words. When he lost his mind, he would curse you out so badly, and when you got close to him he would grab you or punch at you and try to choke you. It broke my parents heart, but they couldn't allow us kids to keep going over there. I remember vividly, I was 13 years old, I was trying to help feed him, he started cursing me out, and he grabbed me by the neck and pulled me into him, he started choking me and I actually passed out. My dad saved my life, guaranteed, because I am sure my grandpa would have strangled me to death. It still haunts me to this day.

One thing that always hurts my heart, is for my parents and any others in that situation. They have to explain to their children why their own parent is like that, and its crushing to them to have to deal with it, let alone try to explain it to their own kids.

What is your Moms name. I will pray for her. 65 is too young. I wish I had advice for you.

Thoughts and prayers your way.

Thanks everyone.

Right now i'm sleeping on a cot in the extra room used for storage. It's just too much for my dad to handle alone. We caught her wandering down the basement stairs talking about how she needed to bake a cake.

I stay up and watch her at night and sleep during the day. My dad watches her during the day.


I'm just numb, i have no idea what to do.

Man that is just terrible.
What are the Doctors saying? Is there medicine that will at least help a little?
Support Groups?

Deepest sympathies Jake. I'm losing my mom right now to Alzheimer's and Parkinson's, so I know exactly what you're going through.

I'm sorry to hear that man.

I didn't even know that was a thing...

Very sorry. Thoughts and prayers.