OK,My friend asked me for advise......
 

( Hang with me, long read.... What would you do ? ) ( Scott & Rita ) My friend of 15 years here ( my diesel truck / auto mechanic ) asked me for advise. He has 1 daughter ( Mary ) that has 2 kids, she is 27 years old with 2 girls. He asked me because I have 2 daughters thinking I could give him sound advise on what I would do in this situation.

Mary is going thru a divorce, has 2 girls, 3 and 4 years old. Her husband ( William ) has driven her self esteem way down to thinking she is a loser , a slut, etc. All this time while married, she was faithful and kissed his ass. He cheated on her, often and always wanted to have 3 way sex with her.

Now being seperated, she has gone wild. Parties, smoking weed,letting the girls stay up late,having sex with different men and even letting men sleep on the couch and love seat overnight at times. Scott & Rita was talking to her on the phone while Mary was away from the house, taking one of the guys she hangs with to get a burger. They asked her where the girls were, she told them at home with her friends, meaning 2 male friends.

Scott & Rita was livid....... they went off on Mary for leaving the girls with 2 guys, ages from 23 to 30. So mad that they waited till midnight to go visit her.

Suprise, suprise........ at midnight, they walked into Mary's house without notice to find 2 guys asleep in the front room while she was cleaning the house. OH BOY, Mary was pissed and humilated when Scott & Rita cleared the house out,making the young men go away.

They drilled her left and right, telling her she was setting a bad example for the 2 girls. Naturally, Mary couldn't see this, she felt violated that they showed up without warning, just walking right in. She was 27 , an adult, who can live her own life as she choose's.

The jumped on her for no food in the house, more beer than food. More parties and card games than quality time being spent with the girls.

Again, Mary couldn't see this, she was still humiliated and felt violated. This has been a week now and Mary is not speaking to them.

He asked me if they did the right thing, making a visit. Walking right in without warning.

I told him.... If it was me, damn straight, I would really be pissed if one of my 2 daughters acted like that.

I asked both of my daughters if they thought they were right, 1 said Yes, 1 said No, they should have called her 1st.

What would you do ?

My personal theory would be that an adult should have the right to live the way they want. However, this woman is obviously not an adult, despite her age. Heck, yes, she needs an intervention, especially since she has young kids.

Tell her you're calling Child Services, so that way she can do what she wants and not worry about the kids.

If she objects, then ask her what she's worried about. If she's being a good mother there won't be any problems.

Moooo

Call the Department of Human Services.

They'll investigate the situation and determine if the kids are being cared for properly. worst case scenario is the grandparents would gain custody.

Shoot everyone involved in the head three times.

You know its people like you that make the world such a bad place...

Three times? That's not going to teach them anything! Empty AT LEAST a clip into everyone involved... and their families.

Moooo

She's lucky it wasn't DHS busting in the door to take her kids to a proper environment.

The parents need to remind the hooor that she's an adult, and the actions she is taking now will have a bigger effect on those children then she understands.

Would she want her daughters doing what she's doing now?


When I was running bars....the new devorcees...were the easiest to do filthy things to.

An insecure woman will do anything to feel worthwhile. Unfortunately, it never comes (cause it doesn't work like that), and it becomes a viscious cycle...

Moooo

NO shit? How much college did it take to conquer that brain buster?


I'd tell the wench to straiten her shit up or she's losing the kids....to the parents or DHS

Unfortunately, the threat of losing her kids probably won't be all that effective. If she gave a shit about the kids, they wouldn't be in this situation to begin with.

No college. But I'm still young, so a lot of things about how people work and act are new to me. I wasn't trying to be rude towards you.

The funny thing is I'm a psych major but they never talk about real-world situations (at least not yet).

Moooo

She is a very pretty girl, but she is going about the wrong way to build her self esteem up. She doen't have to do these things to men for attention.

She is so wrapped up into herself, her life style and having fun to see that she is setting a bad example for the girls.

The girls are healthy, they are getting proper meals.

The night they showed up, the fridge was basically empty because Mary hadn't been shopping yet. ( so the story goes from Mary)

They explained it to her that anyone in the neighborhood could call her in and she would have to face the music.

No, no, no. You have to leave at least one alive, and let them run to the next village to tell people what happened. Did you learn nothing from Attila the Hun?

I made a rule not to learn anything from Hungarians...

It really has come in handy what with the Gabors and whatnot.

Moooo

I'd tell her to expect weekly unannounce visits for the next three months. If shit doesn't straighten out, I'd also call child services. Hearing too many stories like this.