Ok, what do you guys think?
 

I'm Asst. Coaching on my 8 year old kids 3 on 3 b-ball team. We've got six kids total and play four, 4 minute quarters. Rules say we sub entire groups.

We haven't done very well up to this point (1-3) but today we got the game into OT tied 20-20 at the end of regulation.

My kid is the fourth best player on the team normally but today he led all scores with 8 points and 6 rebounds. In OT I suggested to coach we put in the three players who had played the best games. He decided to play the regular rotation which bugs me a little bit truth be told

So we go through OT and we're tied again. We had several chances to win.

Now we shoot free throws. One shooter each team. Whoever misses first loses.

We do put our best player out there but he showed up late and didn't get any warm ups prior to the game and had an off game up to that point while the 2nd best kid on the team was popping J's all over the place in warm ups and had his regular solid game.

So we miss, their kid makes it and now we're 1-4.

The kids held up pretty well but I feel like we blew the game on bad coaching decisions.

They're only kids but losing sucks.

That is all.

Well talk to the coach and reward people being on time and how you feel the players are looking in warm up.

I think you should kick his ass and take his job.

Unfortunately, he's the coach and he's the one who faces the media and the donors and the fans after a loss. As long as you're the assistant, you're going to have to support his decisions.

I was offered to be the HC but I turned it down because of time conflicts. I wish I would of taken the job now. It's a developmental league but I really hate losing.

Yeah, maybe that's the answer. He had a system in place and stuck to it, so presumably that's his philosophy. Your best approach is to talk to him about adjusting his system so that next time he can stick with his system and still make the changes you want.

When we're talking about kids who are this young, wins and losses are completely irrelevant.

The absolute last thing I'd worry about would be in-game decisions. As long as the kids are learning something and, most importantly, having fun, who gives a ****.

They're 8 year olds. I think you should stick with the rotation. I'd have played the hot hand for the free throws though.

He's a rookie coach like me. He's one of those ultra nice guys, smart too but he's not as interested in winning as he is in everyone getting their playing time.

I don't completely agree with that.

Truth be told I do. I feel like I watched KC lose right now.

What they should be learning is that winning isn't everything, it's the only thing.

You're not going to be "that guy" are you?

Don't let yourself become this.

Yeah. There's a balance of making sure everyone has fun and a chance to play, and also showing kids that there's a reward for good performance.

Why does a team of 6 eight year old kids need an "assistant" coach?

I know what you mean. I'm not showing it outwardly because I want to set a good example for the kid but it's bugging me, that's why I came to the board to vent.