If you knew the time was coming, would you give things to people you want to have
 

while you still could, or would you leave a letter detailing who should get what?

wouldn't it mean more when still able to visit about said things?


Just curious...

what would you do...


How would you feel if you were a receivee?

Yes, because it leaves no argument of your intentions.

:(

This.

Either way works, I guess. But like TrebMaxx said, if you do it beforehand, there are no questions/fights. My dad did that with my brother me. He gave us each 2 of his guns.

I think its what makes you feel better.

Hang in there. Your a fighter.

I plan on doing mine while I can vs waiting and having everyone fight over the stuff I leave behind.
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hubby doesn't even want to discuss it

I think It would have more meaning if I did it in person. Maybe tell them the special meaning or thought behind it.

We only have one child so really I wouldnt' anticipate much fighting, but I am conflicted as to how those receiving stuff would feel

Yes, I have enemys that need loads of boar jizz and I want to see it.

depends on who and what

some things would have a personal touch and message ... some things and just "things"

One of my friends' dad did this, he all of a sudden started trying to give something to me every time I visited them. At first it was various tools and equipment, and he said it was because he was getting too old to use the stuff, which made sense to me and I didn't think much of it. Then it changed to household items, which I thought was odd but I didn't question it too much. It wasn't too long after that his health started to decline rapidly, and he passed away.

I later found out that he had been doing this to everyone he knew, he must have known his time was coming and there were certain things he wanted certain people to have, which bothered me a bit because I declined several things he offered. If I had known at the time what he was doing I would've just taken them. It's kind of weird in retrospect, because I have no idea why he specifically wanted me to have some of the stuff he gave me.

Damn... :(

so you would have taken them just because of the situaiton?

I don't want it to be morbid or anything like that. My daughter knows she gets my jewelry but other things, I just want to share or remember special times. I do not want crying or pity tho...I want to be positive and leave lasting memories

Go with what you feel in your heart and by the way your relationships are. It wouldn't hurt to do it both ways. The personal way would mean more I think. Just keep fighting and do what makes you feel good.

Yeah, I would have if I had known that he had thought of me when he decided to give away a particular item. It never registered to me what he was doing, I assumed he was just trying to get rid of stuff he didn't want anymore for whatever reason.