Do you ever feel like a disappointment?
 

A bit of a more serious thread for our Sunday night.

Do you ever feel like a disappointment to;
To your family?
Your friends
Significant other?
Other people you care about?

Just a little background.

I would consider myself to be at least somewhat successful in life. I graduated high school, got my Bachelor's degree, and I make a positive impact on people's lives each day. I would say that I'm generally a good person. I help people when I can. I treat all people I interact with kindness. Am I perfect? No. But who is?

I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

Anyone else experience anything like this?

Do I ever feel like a disappointment to myself? Surely. On a routine basis. But I try to learn and grow from it then move on.

Do I feel like I'm disappointment to others? Only if I have specifically let someone down. Otherwise, **** 'em, they aren't perfect either.

Yes.

No.. I have never felt like Russell Willson...

That’s probably a normal for even the most successful people. You can try your best, but you can’t be perfect at everything or please everyone. Just do your best and be decent to people, unless they’re donkey fans.

Nah. The trick is to get joy from yourself and not rely on other people.

It would be stranger for me if someone never took stock like this and thought their life was without fault. Embrace the fact you are a normal human, the good of it and the bad of it and keep going out to do your best for yourself and your people.

Maybe you need to change things up a lil? Try something new.

Sounds like some internal doubts and self esteem issues manifested externally with the ultimate goal of convincing yourself those around you are disappointed in you for no reason, hence the desire to take inventory of your accomplishments. Your logical conscious self is having a little squabble with intrusive unwanted subconscious feelings and doubts.

I agree. It would be more concerning to not ever have these feelings. A healthy dose of self-disappointment goes along with having strong expectations of yourself in various aspects of your life. You care what you are doing to others and yourself, and upon realizing that you came up short in some ways (as we all do from time to time) and having that bother you means that your drive to better others and yourself still exists.

A healthy dose, though. If you are feeling this way too often, something is skewed. You may be able to straighten out priorities on your own through things like discussing here or with friends how you are doing, or you may need to discuss it with a professional through therapy, but you don't want to let it get out of control.

Is there one small thing you could do tonight/tomorrow/this week to help in some way a relationship that is causing this nagging feeling? is there one small thing you could start this week to help in a more long-term manner?

Your wife is a damsel in distress. Load the dishwasher then unload in her(fill in the desired blank)

Sounds like aids manifesting as self doubt

Ok, let's be real here.

You won't ever be the Rocky Statue, but that doesn't mean you're a failure by a long shot.

Is there really a Rocky statue?

Philadelphia

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I have imposter syndrome, too.

It’s pretty common, bro.