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Originally Posted by BDj23
I understand that not everyone is looking for the same thing. But, I don't understand the mindset of going into a date with the idea of "I'm not looking for a relationship". It seems like a good way to potentially miss on someone who (not saying I am) is awesome.
But maybe I'm just putting too much thought into this.
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You are.
Over 3 years ago I was casually dating a girl. She's younger than me and was just finishing college while I'd been working full time for 4 years. We were at different places in our lives and she didn't know what she wanted yet. She wasn't ready for a relationship. I broke off our dating and didn't see or talk to her.
Fast forward 3 years. I've had several relationships/dating since, she had been in a long-term. We're both single and reconnect. We're now at the same point in our lives and we're now in a relationship. It's so much stronger than it would have been back then. What we have now was also possible because I ended it when I did 3 years ago. We wouldn't have been in the position to reconnect and try again if we had continued to move forward (without really moving forward).