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Originally Posted by carcosa
I'd argue that decade upon decade of parents hitting their kids for fear of being "soft" is a big part of what ****ed this nation up in the first place.
It's possible to be firm and assertive and discipline your kids without coming close to traumatizing them. It's just a lot harder than kicking their ass and being done with it.
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There has to be somewhere between beating your kids or letting them get away with anything they want. I grew up in the era of spare the rod/spoil the child however the only times I was ever spanked was was when I hit one of my sisters. Even so, most of the time, my parents simply took away something that I liked and let me know what I was going to lose if I kept misbehaving. Actions have consequences. After a while, just knowing that I had disappointed my parents hurt worse than any spanking I ever got.
I believe parents do the best that they can with the knowledge that the have. If you only have a hammer, everything starts to look like a nail.
To me, the problem is due to parents being unable to say NO and wanting to be their childs friend instead of a parent because it seems easier.