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Originally Posted by displacedinMN
Make a list of things he can do to stay.
If not, he has to leave. Hardest thing is clear, consistent, united expectations.
One Crack and the whole plan goes to hell and he wins.
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That last part is basically why it won't ever work if the kid doesn't give a shit about your rules and only wants to do whatever the hell he wants as long as he can get away with it... it's exhausting on the parents and giving an inch leads to giving two inches which leads to giving a foot, then one day he's 25 and still living in your basement and eating all of your food.
It's one thing if the kid wants to be out on his own and simply doesn't have the structure or discipline... so those rules provide those.
If not, it's a pointless exercise that IMO only makes the parents feel better about trying.