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Originally Posted by Bearcat
I've been role this around in my head a bit and IMO this doesn't accurately depict the skin in the game.
If you have Elvis marry you in Vegas drive through chapel the night you meet someone, you obviously don't have any skin in the game and chances are probably higher that it'll end poorly.
OTOH, if you date someone for a year or two, give up your personal space to live together, spend money on dates and gifts and so forth... and the get engaged, that's quite a bit of skin in the game already, no? Does paying 3 month's salary on top of that really change anything?
Or to turn that around.... if you met someone at a bar tonight, bought a $10k ring for her and got engaged.... you wouldn't expect throwing $10k into a 6 hour relationship is going to help anything, right? And if it did, probably not for good reasons.
I think there is sometimes a psychological component to it, like Buehler mentioned... dress for success or for the occasion. Granted, my wardrobe was pretty casual before working from home all the time, so can't exactly say I abide by it.
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I also think that it depends on what your relationship is really like in the first place. My wife and I had lived together for two years before we got engaged, and we shared a lot of our expenses. If I'd spent $10k on a wedding ring, her response wouldn't have been "OMG how thoughtful." It would have been "Why the **** are we living in this shithole if you can afford $10k on a ring?"