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Originally Posted by IowaHawkeyeChief
Well, looking at extended family, I have one nephew that is a disaster all self-imposed, and other nephews and nieces who have worked their asses off to get where they are... I don't want to award the lazy loser....
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You can do whatever you want with your money, booboo. But that could be creating a interesting family dynamic beyond your relationship with the nephew. It's not like we are talking about the 2nd, 3rd, 5th cousin you haven't seen in 2 decades here I am going to assume. This is one of your brother's or sister's children. How do you reconcile with your sibling that one of their children will still be in the economic shit pile they are in, as they presently sit in a shit pile. But the others you like more will receive the opportunities wealth can create, while already being better off as it is now? But again, you can do whatever you want with your money.
Why not make it an incentive to the family member struggling to get themselves help. With the stipulations the money will come later after the self care and self improvements have been made?
You don't have to be such a hard ass your whole life, Francis. People make mistakes. Some more than others, some make the same mistakes over and over. But that's okay. Life is journey, a marathon. There will be stumbles a long the way for all of us. Being humble and having a little humility is damn hard in the face of our natural prejudices. But I know damn well if you were a family member of mine. You wouldn't be left out in the proverbial cold over a few of life's issues that could face any one of us.