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Originally Posted by Pablo
I guess I'm just lucky/happy I met my wife when she was in her early 20's and w/o drama of any sort.
Fishing thru the divorce dumpster and whores from high school with 10 and 12 year olds that are never gonna fully embrace you as a parental figure looks grim.
My best friend got divorced from his wife a couple of years ago. He's dating a younger chick with two kids that got divorced a couple of years ago. It looks like they're gonna work out but he's got a 14 and 10 year old and she's got a 7 and 5 year old.
That's a lot of goddamn work he's taking on and there's a Dad in the mix that actively works to sabotage and shit talk their relationships all around. Gonna end up with him having to fight this dude and who knows what else because he decided to be a good guy and step up and be a positive male role model for kids that aren't his.
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The most important personal, financial, emotional, etc decision most people will ever make is their choice in spouse. Finding someone in the early 20s and settling with them by mid to late 20s at latest seems the most ideal situation. Many people take it far too lightly and/or assume they can just “have fun” until they are ready to settle down after age 30 with some perfect person. By that time, your pool of partners has dwindled significantly and is disproportionately (compared to early 20s) made up of people with a lot of baggage that requires both people to really work at making things work. It’s of course possible, just tends to be more challenging than when you spend your 20s growing with your spouse.