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Originally Posted by mmaddog
While I agree with certain parts of what you are trying to intimate...it's not just that easy.
First....Mary isn't playing with a full deck or a full set of sensibility right now. First and foremost, as a Mother, her concern should be for the children. And I don't care how you may try and couch it, strange men sleeping on the sofa, beer in the house around kids who are being supervised by new people in their lives, and drugs in a life are all catalysts to tragedy.
As Grandparents, it is their duty to see that their grandchildren are kept out of harm's way. Wonder how they would have felt had thet just left Mary to "sort it out on her own", only later to find out the guys she left her kids with were sexual predators. F*** the "hurting her feelings" crap.
I am never one to believe grandparents shoud intervene in how parents are raising their children, unless of course those doing the parenting are clueless and classless. We spend too much time worrying about adults and their "feelings" that we forget that there are unseen victims left unprotected.
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The question wasn't whether or not the Grandparents should be concerned or try to help their daughter and the grandkids. We both agree that they should.
The question was should the parents have come in the house uninvited at midnight for some kind of 'inspection'. The answer to that is 'no'. The parents have no more moral or legal right to trespass on Mary's property than anyone else. It sounds like the grandparents have control issues that they would show up like that, and the daughter has confidence problems that she wouldn't throw them out on the spot. JMHO.
Were the girls endangered because they were left under the supervision of two males between the ages of 23-30? Perhaps a 14 y/o girl in middle school would be better. Where do the grandparents derive the right to approve or disapprove all babysitters for their grandchildren.
As for the 'more beer than food' issue. That sounds a little sketchy. A previous post mentioned that the girls were both healthy, happy and well fed.
There was a male sleeping in the livingroom? What? No three-way with whipping cream while the little girls run arround the house sticking knives in electric sockets? Seriously, after 5 years of marriage, pehaps daughter is not very comfortable staying alone in a house with 2 young daughters. If they would ask their daughter in a calm, supportive manner they might know the answer.
I understand were you are coming from MD, I just don't think kicking the door in at midnight, kicking people out of someone else's house, and making ultimatiums is a very effective way of dealing with the situation.
Maybe if they offered to babysit one or two nights a week so she can go out and have some fun, with the understanding that she will be at home, sans dope and beer the other nights.