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I would concur with phish and dane.
If you have a favorite bar that you went to while you were married you are going to have to find a new bar.
I always took the johnny appleseed approach when I was socializing. I would move around the area talking to each group of ladies or single lady I found attractive for a few minutes and then politely excuse myself and move on.
Remember to be a shark and keep moving. the more people you talk to the more seeds you plant. I would always approach it as friendship to begin with
the person you talk to may not be attracted to you but may have a friend that would be. Once you have made the rounds go back in and drop by for more conversation if the first round was positive. Try to remember something from the previous conversation and weave that into the new thread. You are working percentages here if you talk to 10 you may get 5 phone numbers. If you get 5 phone number you might get laid 2 times (if that is all you want).
I prefer the long con, go on 5 dates or social outings and work all five angles.
To do this you have to have confidence (this is coming from a short fat guy)
If you are going to talk to a group of ladies talk to all of them and listen to all of them.
Observe your targets before you approach. Do not stare but look for openings
to conversations. If you are going to compliment leave body parts out of it (including hair and eyes) Earrings, Jewelry and perfume are good ones.
You need to cultivate relationships with 2-3 bartenders at a variety of bars (dive, upscale, dance club) Find a variety of good restaurants (sushi, chinese , mexican(traditional), italian, steakhouse etc.) get to know them and their manager and chefs.
Keep up with what is going on in the local art and theater
I would highly recommend volunteering at a local charity when you have time.
Be passionate about something and know a little bit about everything.
The most important is to listen and respond intelligently.
I would ask them about themselves and not talk about myself unless asked.
It has worked well for me. I have never been afraid to approach anyone because I new I only had friendship on my mind. I have been very fortunate to have shared time with some truly exquisite women.
ang
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