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Originally Posted by Mecca
Things happen, she never acted nuts or did anything crazy and I was very aware of the situation early on.
My thought was if this guy can't even take the time to treat his wife right that's his problem not mine. We had things in common and had fun but I always took the situation for what it was and never made it anymore than that.
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They all say that. Or something similar to that. They do it in an attempt to justify their action of infidelity to themselves as well as their potential adulterer. "My husband ignores me." "I'm lonely." "He doesn't pay attention to me." "He drinks too much." "All he does is spend time at the office." etc., etc., etc.
They convince themselves that they are participating in adultery because of some perceived negative situation in their married lives instigated by their spouse. Maybe not even convince, but just making some excuse in order to possibly validate the affair in their own mind.
The guy could be a prince, but she's not thinking of any of his positives when she's making an attempt at garnering attention. And attention is the primary reason a woman cheats. It's not that she isn't getting attention at home, it's that she wants/demands/needs attention and wants to feel wanted and attractive by more than her spouse. We all do to some degree. How she deals with that and where she takes it are up to the individual.
I was watching some show on NG or TLC or some such crap, and they were actually doing a intensive study on "love." Turns out that the married woman, when out in a social setting without being accompanied by her spouse/partner actually puts out more the the dopamine, endorphins and subtle sexual body queues than single woman.