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JW picked the wrong person to blame on the topic of kids growing up w/out fathers. The affair sure isn't a good thing but it doesn't mean he should pay for his life with it. Hell she could of blackmailed him or whatever and broke up the SM and his wife if she didn't know about his other life. But she chose to take his life and hers but also affected the lives of the 4 boys dramatically.

I don't know the whole story of how bad it was or wasn't between he and the wife. Either way that was a personal mistake, a big one on his part not considering how it would affect them. But that's the thing it was a personal issue that we don't know how it would have turned out. They could have got counseling and stayed together for the sake of the kids or split or any number of things.

It looks like his biggest mistake besides the matter of cheating and those circumstances was who he chose or who chose him, the gal he was running with. Her family paints a good picture of her as a good person which you would expect them to do of a loved one. And while it is mentioned of him transitioning to the next stage of his life in his post playing days and those struggles I'm sure the girl was going through a key point at her age and wheather or not she was in college and figuring out WTF she wanted to do with the rest of her life. Sometimes what you planned those last few years of HS is nothing what you wanted.

The way it looks is she took matters of her and his life in her own hands and made that choice which is just terrible. He picked the wrong chick to have an affair with. That doesn't excuse the affair or any affair but it doesn't mean he should pay with his life.

Plenty of people get shit on and humiliated or whatever. Hell, I've had people i thought i wanted to kill for how they affected me at different stages of my life. The hell they put me or my family through that affects them or me to this very day. I got no problem admitting that. But i also consider the embarrassment and pain that would cause my family and loved ones and the fact i know i would regret it so why not just do the best i can and move forward. That doesn't make me the better person, just lucky i didn't snap like she did.

I've also been in her shoes and taken part in an affair w/ a married woman with children. It wasn't her first time cheating. Yes he was violent with her and they both had their share of substance abuse problems. But that doesn't make it right. It may have at the time maybe think it was ok but it was a big mistake. Even if i said to myself that if it wasn't me it would have been some other guy it doesn't make me feel any less guilty or ashamed of myself for how i would feel if i was in the husbands shoes even if he treated her horribly. That's personal and between them. I had no right to get involved. That's my mistake and i get to live with it.

The point being is while thoughts are with so many people in his and her life it's his kids who are at the forefront. Godbless Tony Dungy for his part in trying to council young men, many of them fathers about straightening out their lives for their kids and themselves. It's a major problem. To many people don't realize that so often history repeats itself. The bad shit the parents go through often times the kids learned along the way and repeat those same mistakes. Not all of them will be lucky to find a father figure or a role model in life that will council them on the right and wrong.

Whitlock should have used someone like Travis Henry as an example of being a bad parent and not McNair. SM and his wife could of divorced or not. He could have been with the young gal or not. But he didn't seem like the type of person that would allow that to stand in his way of raising his boys.