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Avoid conjuring up pity
A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to make a woman feel pity for
them. They’ll call obsessively, saying things like, “I’m so lonely and I really want
to see you tonight.”
On a psychological level, a lot of this may point back to the mother-son
relationship. As little boys, we could often get what we wanted by evoking the
maternal nurturing instinct in our moms.
Don’t do this with women you date. Any time you evoke pity in a person,
they will look down on you. In their mind, they’ll frame you as a person who is a
loser, and then they’ll treat you accordingly.
Have you ever noticed that unsuccessful salesmen are the ones who
appeal to your pity? (“Please buy this car so I can eat this month!”)
Psychologically, people cannot help having derision for those they pity.
The successful salesmen are those who make sure customers feel they (and not
the salesmen) are gaining a benefit by buying their cars and not just feeling sorry
for someone.
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