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It's a tough call... I guess a lot will depend on how you think your view of religion falls into it. I think you should do everything possible to avoid talking down to him, talk with him and DO NOT make it sound like he's weird or doing something evil by looking at porn.
Most normal males found a way to look at a Playboy or one of those shows on Cinemax back in the day when Cable first hit the scene.
The kid is doing what is perfectly normal for a kid with questions and racing hormones. You know he's probably seen just about anything and everything that you don't want him to see. And, thanks to friends... he's probably heard more than he needs to know about sex, women, etc.
So, I would try to keep it simple - it's going to be awkward as hell for both of you. Ask him what he has questions about... ask him if he understands what really happens when people get naked and exchange juices. Babies, marriage, the hardships involved by doing things way too early.
As long as you keep it open ... and don't make it sound like he's doing evil things, I think you can have a good conversation. Be honest and say up front "Hey, you and I do need to talk about this... and please know that you won't get in trouble for being honest with me." The kid has probably heard about and seen pictures of everything (as mentioned earlier), but that doesn't mean he understands it... so, that's the part you need to focus on and just let him know that you're always there for him.
When I turned 16... my talk with my dad consisted of him walking by me as I was reading the paper, he dropped a small brown bag in front of me and said "I know you're at that age and while I can't force you not to do something... I don't want you to be afraid NOT to buy these or get into a situation where you don't have them."
I opened the bag and there was a package of condoms... that was both shocking and appreciated, but still... that was the bulk of our li'l sex talk.
Enjoy.
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