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Reminds me of my EX wife.
She'd get signature/payday loans, credit cards, and even steal random checks from our check book (after I locked it up she still went and got counter checks).
The first time my father had to help us was about $1200 to get us out of the hole in our checking account. The next time he had to help us it was over $4000.
So, I had to borrow around $5200 from my dad just to pay off bad checks (the ones she was stealing), she KEPT getting signature loans and credit cards, all on top of her very large Student loans and pre-marriage Credit Cards.
Bye-Bye. After 4 1/2 years of marriage and 9 years together, I couldn't take that along with her diagnosis of Bi-polar, and other mental illnesses.
hey I was young and so was she. no kids no loss.
To this day I have always kept my finances separate from any girlfriend I've had.
I've been dating my current girlfriend for 5 years, she's lived in my house for 3. We have separate accounts. I pay for everything....sometimes she helps with the phone or satellite bill if she can. we split food.
It doesn't bother me. I am in a position that I can afford to pay for everything. She has two daughters that her and her ex husband are paying for college out of their pockets. I feel I help by paying for everything else.
we have already discussed if we live together much longer here is what we are going to do.
1. Get a joint account.
2. manually deposit money in the joint account to pay for bills (mortgage, utilities)
3. she has her "other bills" like car payment, fun money, etc. that she uses her own checking account for.
4. I have my "other bills' like car payment, fun money, etc that I use my own checking account for.
This way, in the future, we will both pay for bills, but get to keep our own money for our own things.
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