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Originally Posted by Huffman83
So....the wife is taking her 15 minute breather from a big fight in reference to finances. For the past 3 years, I've been the "bread winner." as in I pay the bills, buy dinner, entertainment...etc.
She has a lot of student loan dept that I was already aware of. However, some things I was not aware of initially was how much credit card debt she had due to her charging random shit to her credit card while she was a student.
Therefore I'm lucky to get $250 bucks a month from her in order to pay bills.
Between mortgage, insurance, utilities, entertainment, (cable,internet etc.) cell/phone bills. 58% of my earnings goes towards house bills. Not to mention food, gas and my own personal debt.
The wife gets a new job and is making more money. COOL!!!! Initially she states she'll be able to give me double of what she can. I'm still paying 45% of my monthly income. While she is only paying aprox 36 % of the bills. That's $500 bucks if you're still following.
I've been broke and barely able to make ends meet...and when the wife asks me to only give me $400 a month to help w/ bills and then we can start having kids in 2012. And I say no...that's bullshit, I'm at my wits end.
I'm still the asshole aren't I?  |
I have been the breadwinner since we got married. At one point, we had separate accounts. It was stupid.
We have been through a ton together. And, although it is tough sometimes, we put our money in the same checking account, and write out a budget each month. We each get the same amount of spending money, and we pay cash for everything. If we can't pay cash, we don't buy it.
We get along better than we ever have. Before, when I tried to 'reel in' her spending, I was a controlling jerk.
Now, we make those decisions together and set goals. And, we know that foregoing an extra pair of shoes now, will pay off in the long run.
Separate accounts just lead to fights and each of you being possessive over what you earn. The fact is you are married, and it is all half hers anyways.