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I'm not married, but I'm pretty proud of the CP men and their self confidence on this issue. The last serious girlfriend I had was really big into the money and talking about it. At the time I had my BA and she had a triple major BA and her Masters. Liked to talk down to me because of it while I made three times more than she did. Didn't really understand her train of thought. I don't use my degree for really any part of my profession and she came from a super education first family. At the end of the day doesn't it really come down to cheddar rather than how much shit you hang from the wall with your name on it? I got the **** out of that deal while the gettin was good.
My younger brother has a degree as well, but my dad and three other brothers don't have a degree and kick mine and my brothers ass as far as income goes. Ego has no place in a healthy relationship whether it be because of education level or income. Having seen it done the right way my entire life I knew this chick wasn't for me. I'd love to find a career woman that had her own goals and ambitions. If she made more it wouldn't bother me in the least. I do what I love, work hard at it, make good money, and hope to find a lady someday that stands on her own two feet as well. I would think that would make for a healthier relationship, but I admit I have to yield to the people here that have experienced it as I have not. After reading most of the responses my way of thinking seems to be a good blueprint to go off of anyway.
Both of my parents are over $100K earners and they've done it wonderfully together. My dad makes significantly more than her, but he as well as all of us kids are very proud of her for being a kickass professional. Growing up my dad paid the bills (house payment, utilities, etc) and mom paid to keep the house going (groceries, all of our clothes, school shit, etc). They have a joint checking account and both have their own personal checking accounts. I've seen them over the years just go and buy for themselves whatever they want and the other thinks it's kickass or silly, but there is no resentment or asking permission. The only time my dad bitched was when he thought our mom was spoiling us too much. Sometimes it was a playful competition between the two. Last year my mom decided she was going to buy a new car and just did it. My dad loved it and was happy she did it. They have a fairly decent sized "farm" that is really just a bunch of land they live on and any crops planted are food plots for hunting. Anyway about two weeks later my mom came home to see a new Case 90 XT skidsteer parked in the garage were my mom parks her new car. This was on the saturday of Father's day weekend. We were all home for the weekend and looking outside the windows or standing outside to see the look on mom's face when she opened the garage door. She started laughing hysterically and got out of her new fancy car and gave my Dad a hug and kiss while all of us kids, wives, husbands, and significant others were clapping and laughing our asses off. They pretty much own free and clear everything they have and now just spoil the shit out of the grandkids. My Dad is 66 and Mom 54 and they still do date night probably once a week. It's pretty awesome to witness when you see greed and other stupid bullshit tearing other marriages apart nowadays. Hopefully I'll be lucky enough to find a woman that wants to emulate what my parents have used to great success and happiness. Of course it helps to make enough money between two people were money isn't a source of stress or ambiguity.
Tip of the cap to all of you that make it work. I know it isn't always easy.
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