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Originally Posted by noswad
so you would have taken them just because of the situaiton?
I don't want it to be morbid or anything like that. My daughter knows she gets my jewelry but other things, I just want to share or remember special times. I do not want crying or pity tho...I want to be positive and leave lasting memories
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I don't think you can avoid the crying either way but if they are given something after you have passed, they'll already be upset and the gift then would equate more to fond remembrance as opposed to "I'm dying, please take this", which might bring both of you down. My wife has always told me, about our own children, that you have to deal with each of them differently and I think that is probably the case with each person in your situation. Some people you can do that with and others are better left for after.
You might consider a video that you narrate or a letter, a letter if you don't want to cry on them.
Your daughter, depending on her age, would probably cherish a video for the rest of her life and though it might make her cry each time she watches it, it will help her to hear your voice saying "I love you".
My father died when I was young and I cannot recall the sound of his voice, but I have a video that I taped during the holidays when I was a teen and on one scene of it I zoomed in on my grandpa and said "I love you" and he replied back "I love you too". Kills me every time, but in a good way.