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Originally Posted by JD10367
. The hard part will be revealing that you invaded her privacy by looking at her phone, but unfortunately the cold truth of it is: when you're a 13-year-old girl, and you're using a phone that you didn't pay for, you don't HAVE any right to privacy. And this situation is the perfect example: kids think they know best, but they don't.
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I find this attitude so frustrating and completely ignorant. Sorry.
She has every right to expect privacy at 13. The problem is she FORFEITS that right when she decides to share personal information with STRANGERS or others who are not concerned with her privacy.
Telling her she has no privacy will GUARANTEE she will sneak around and lie. Rather, tell her she has
the right to exepct privacy but it's hers to LOSE if she does not handle herself appropriately.
Worse yet, the lesson she hears and learns is if she has no expecation or right to privacy and boundaries from her parents then who does she have it from? Do you really want your daughter out in the world not understanding or valuing her personal privacy or boundaries?
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