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Originally Posted by Deberg_1990
If people are going to do that and expect it for free, the least they could do is give something in return every once in awhile.....a gift card, some beer, pay for your lunch, etc...
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Acknowedging that you'd even helped them 3 days earlier would be a nice start. A Thank you once in a while wouldn't hurt either. When I help young people with things like internships, or introducing them to people who can help them, or writing a letter of support when they're in trouble....I ask them to do one thing....Remember where you came from, and some day when you have the chance, reach back and help on a local project, or a local kid become somebody. Pay it back when you can. That's it.
In general, I help people because it's the right thing to do, not because I'm looking for something, but it's so easy once you become known as someone who will show up and work on a community project, volunteer, contribute and do things for people to get to the point where it's about all you do, and you don't have time for your own projects or your own family.
I'm there now, and have been making a conscious effort to draw that down to reasonable......it just gets hard to say no, when you're so used to saying yes. For some reason the more you do, the more people expect.
Many people sincerely appreciate it.....but it's amazing how often you end up treated like a hwy flagman for your time and effort.