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Originally Posted by God of Thunder
It's hard to move on......especially since I did and DIDN'T see it coming. The signs were there, and I knew it.......I just assumed we were in a rut.
On Friday, she claimed she wanted a "break, not a breakup" so she could clear her head for awhile and determine what she wanted. I told her a break was another word for breakup. Sunday came (sunday night) and I called her and was mad. Told her after 1-1/2 years she should know what she wants. She then claimed she went on a date Friday and liked it, and wanted more time. I said "how could you go on a date when we're together?" and she said "you said it was a breakup!" She then gave me this BS about how she's hasnt' felt our connection for awhile, and thought that she didn't love me like she used to.
She said "how about when you get back from Florida, we consider going on a date to see how things go?".....now keep in mind, i leave for Florida this monday, and return next friday.
I was already against this and said "are you going to keep dating this guy in the meantime?" and she said "yes, I like him......he's not you"
So i'm rather hurt. I'm confused.
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I won't say it isn't difficult. Something like this affects your personal sense of worth and self-esteem. Humans don't like that feeling ... not one bit. Personal rejection causes shame and it's a tough one to fight because you're really fighting yourself.
However, it's also the most powerful growth experience that a person can have. I could tell you stories from my own life that are similar. If you read, I can recommend some books that helped me through.
Here's the deal though ... I never would have met the beautiful and witty Mrs. FAX had I stayed with prior relationships. It's silly to compare humans in this way, but the beautiful and witty Mrs. FAX smokes every other girl I've ever known ... including girls I truly loved ... one in particular that I almost married.
You have to dig deep inside yourself and find a way to shut off the past and realize that the best is yet to come. Date a lot of girls. Focus on self-improvement. Motivate yourself. Find something to replace the brooding. Yes, it's difficult now, but things will get better.
This is going to sound crazy, but think about it; What if this girl were hit by a bus and lost her arms and legs. Would you still feel the same way about her? Be honest.
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