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Originally Posted by banyon

What you were saying was that it was appropriate for the team to "honor their fallen teammate" and that they should treat his "loss" as "significant". Those are terms you use with showing respect for the deceased. That's not appropriate in these circumstances.

I understand that the situation is psychologically complicated and that they will, indeed, have to grieve in their own way, but it's not ever going to be appropriate for them to do ANYTHING either officially, or unofficially, as a team to "honor" him as a teammate. You can go to the funeral and grieve, and try to console his family, but the rest doesn't belong here.

We had a police officer in Dodge that murdered his girlfriend. Did the other officers all know him and feel terrible? Yes. But if they had done anything of the type that you are describing, then they would've been pilloried, and rightfully so.

Should the Carolina Panthers have held a commemorative banquet "going away" party for Rae Carruth?

I am not advocating anything. I'm saying that each person needs to deal with this as they need to. I do not think it's appropriate to project my values on another person's bereavement. Especially within the first 48 hours.


The ORGANIZATION NEEDS TO REFRAIN FROM ORGANIZED MOURNING OR HONORING OF JOVAN BELCHER.

Is that clear enough? I've said it before but perhaps not as clear as I needed to.