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Originally Posted by ThaVirus
LOL Good Lord. Your coach legitimately assaulted you.
You admit yourself you regretted your actions immediately after making them so how was your coach's reaction helpful and not grossly unnecessary?
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I knew I was wrong as it was happening...
I don't look back on what the coach did as anything but helpful because the other side of that coin was support that still is there today. I think it's ok to be harsh when necessary when it's paired with good intentions and kindness when that is needed. I think most wrestling coaches will physically beat the shit out of their team every afternoon, but offer just as many hugs and assurance if that's appropriate.
It wouldn't be appropriate today, and I wouldn't want to see it done to my son, but I'm fine with him being coached hard when it's needed to build him a tougher character. I wouldn't bitch if a coach called him simple jack for doing something stupid.
The point being...I've had really tough coaches who said pretty rough things, and none of it had anything to do with race. I know people who have wrestled D1, including Iowa and some of the shit that happened to one of them would have all of these babies in a tantrum for life.
I've had bosses that were absolute mother ****ers, including one that ended in punches because he wouldn't stop calling me a one who sucks the penis. Disrespectful. An asshole every single day. It wasn't about race.
That's my point I guess. Maybe these coaches are absolute pricks. Maybe they think certain players need to be humbled or coached hard to motivate them...maybe they're bad people, I don't know....but I'd be shocked if there weren't plenty of players treated exactly the same way who look back and realize they were better players because of it, and are more successful afterwards because hard men held the, to high standards.
I just don't believe ,out of these things have anything to do with race.
I should point out that I have coached little league and youth wrestling, and I take a very positive approach with kids. I always tell them to have fun and try hard and point out something good for anything I correct.