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Old 01-17-2018, 12:49 PM   #125
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Originally Posted by cooper barrett View Post
People who can't afford to get divorced. When I got divorced my ex stipulated that her costs got paid by me, (including the PI he had following me), then shared equally, and finally she ate all her costs and all mutual (liquidation) costs. It got kinda pissy during the 19 months. As I recall, my lawyer told me the cost of both parties lawyers were negotiated into many settlements, many times with the breadwinner paying the brunt of the costs. He said, having one atty is about the same as a do it yourself divorce kit you get in the mail

I don't know about Kansas as I have lived in JO CO, owned property there, but never was married or divorced when living there. But I am sure, that today in Kansas, unlike years ago, a prenup is a simple matter to do.

Realtors will tell you not to use discount brokers, lawyers advise not to use on line services, and insurance agents tell you not to deal direct. but times have changed and on-line law is the same as sitting down with a lawyer, at least for me it is. I talk with a MO lawyer or an IN or AZ lawyer depending on my needs. I've saved thousands and never had an issue. If you are talking about using a document farm, that's different. I am totally against that as anything other than to show you what a document looks like, not contains. I guess they would do fine to protect the ownership rights to your 55 Vette, but there will always be the issue as to whom the new engine you both paid for belongs.

If you want to write a "pig farmer" prenup you're probably going to need to just keep the atty. on retainer, but for most a prenup, either on line or in person, is not complicated, if it is you need to get more than a basic prenup, you need asset management services.

Trusts, prenups, and cohabitation agreements, are great things, but all can be made more complicated than what they are worth. If the OP has a house, retirement or other financial interments, as major assets then IMHO he can do it on line. If he/they still aren't warm and fuzzy about it they can sit down with you. At least they will have 95% of the work done before they get there.

Just for thought: I have a guy in one of my car clubs who does divorce asset retention law. Lawyers send clients to him to find ways to maximize the money going to each party and reduce costs of sales of assets, penalties, and taxes. It's a niche that is always good for a funny story.

Actually, you're making my point for me. Prenups--assuming that there are not many assets involved--are fairly simple. Simple enough that you can probably get a lawyer to do one for a couple hundred.

You may feel differently, but I would always go with a lawyer for a couple hundred over an online kit for, what? $50? $60? To me, the peace of mind that I get is worth the extra cash.

In the past, I have paid for a lawyer (who specialized in a different area than I do) rather than try to do something myself. And I *am* a lawyer. Sometimes the peace of mind is worth the extra money.

And, as I noted, I'm not trying to drum up business in this thread. I don't even do prenups. I'm just giving my take on remarriage, as I have extensive experience in the area of divorce. I know there are couple other lawyers on the board, but I'm not aware of any other divorce attorneys. So I felt qualified to offer the OP my observations, based on a great deal of experience.
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