Check out this obituary from my town.

[Buehler445]

How would you like your kids to write this obituary for you.

FWIW he was a resident in the rest home where my grandpa is and they entire staff is required to wear masks 100% of the time.

Obituary of Marvin J. Farr

Dr. Marvin James Farr, 81, of Scott City, Kan., passed away Dec. 1, 2020, in isolation at Park Lane Nursing Home. He was preceded in death by more than 260,000 Americans infected with covid-19. He died in a room not his own, being cared for by people dressed in confusing and frightening ways. He died with covid-19, and his final days were harder, scarier and lonelier than necessary. He was not surrounded by friends and family.

Marvin was born May 23, 1939 to Jim and Dorothy Farr of Modoc, Kan. He was born into an America recovering from the Great Depression and about to face World War 2, times of loss and sacrifice difficult for most of us to imagine. Americans would be asked to ration essential supplies and send their children around the world to fight and die in wars of unfathomable destruction. He died in a world where many of his fellow Americans refuse to wear a piece of cloth on their face to protect one another.

Marvin was a farmer and a veterinarian. He graduated from Kansas State University in 1968. His careers filled his life with an understanding of the science of life: how to nurture it, how to sustain it, and the myriad ways that life can go wrong. As a young man he debated between studying mortuary or veterinary science. He chose life over death. The science that guided his professional life has been disparaged and abandoned by so many of the same people who depended on his knowledge to care for their animals and to raise their food.

Marvin was a religious man. He was a lay reader at St. Luke's Episcopal Church. He saw no conflict between the science of his professional life and the belief of his personal life, each enriched the other. From religion, he especially drew on lessons of forgiveness and care. Perhaps the most important comes from the Lord's Prayer:

and forgive us our trespasses,

 as we forgive those who trespass against us;

He would look after those who had harmed him the deepest, a sentiment echoed by the healthcare workers struggling to do their jobs as their own communities turn against them or make their jobs harder. He would also fail those who needed him the most at times, as he was still human, with his flaws and limits.

Marvin was a man of the community. His membership in the Anthem Masonic Lodge #284 and the Scott County Shrine Club mattered to him for both the camaraderie of his brothers and for the good works that they facilitated, the most visible of which is the Shriners Hospitals for Children network. Even in a social organization, he chose one that centered the health and medical care of others.

Marvin was a family man, both of blood and chosen family. He was preceded in death by his wife Lottie Farr; son Justin Farr; brothers Everett Farr and Howard Farr; and parents. He is survived by his children Courtney Farr and Tamra Wilkens of Eudora, Kan.; Tesa Fansler of Sanford, Fla.; and Scott and Tracy Burling of Scott, La.; and numerous grandchildren, great-grandchildren, other family and loved ones.

Memorial donations may be made to the Scott County Hospital Foundation in care of Price & Sons Funeral Homes or https://www.scotthospital.net/getpag...ame=Foundation

A memorial will be held at a later date due to covid-19.

[WhiteWhale]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Anyone narcissistic enough to think that their particular opinion must be heard through hijacking a relative's obit probably doesn't care about what an anonymous person like me thinks.

You realize you, yourself, are virtue signaling right?

A bit of glass house stone tossing in the thread.

That one is my virtue signal.

[InChiefsHeaven]

It's the world we live in. People virtually vent now, it's what we do and most don't see anything wrong with it. In point of fact, they think it is their right and probably their duty to inform everyone of how they feel.

I guess I understand, but I can tell you this, both my parents died years ago and I never said shit about how I felt about the doctors or the circumstances, only that we loved them and they were great great people.

To each their own I guess. Pain and mourning suck, that's for sure.

[Abba-Dabba]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

How would you like your kids to write this obituary for you.

I can't neither like it or dislike it. Because I would be dead.

[BWillie]

There is something to be said with the level of training, care, and give a shit of workers at long term care facilities. Do they test employees daily? Do these employees properly quarantine after seeing extended family or large gatherings of ppl? I doubt it. Hard to expect too much from low wage employees. Its life or death to these ppl over 70.

[eDave]

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

This is pretty heavy, man. I hope you are OK in general.

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

Whoa

[BigRedChief]

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

Originally Posted by bringbackmarty

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

Originally Posted by TLO

I was in a good mood until I read this... Man.

I have been that one intubating. The one holding a phone. I’m
There when they come off. His story is very similar. His reaction more the norm. 90% when asked what they saw while dead, they just say black.

Maybe if people would have heard more personal stories like this, really taken it in, maybe things would have turned out different.

[Hog's Gone Fishin]

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"**** DONK forever"

[KChiefs1]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

For the record the newspaper (that posts obituaries) also has an avenue for letters to the editor.

More people read the obits instead of the letters to the editor.

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by BigRedChief

when asked what they saw while dead

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by Hog's Gone Fishin

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"**** DONK forever"

Could be. LOL

[Coogs]

Originally Posted by Hog's Gone Fishin

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"**** DONK forever"

Surely have to be a little love for Herm Edwards on there too!

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by Coogs

Surely have to be a little love for Herm Edwards on there too!

And love for Mahomes and Reid.

[Titty Meat]

Bue would like for Herm to speak at his funeral

[Buehler445]

Originally Posted by Titty Meat

Bue would like for Herm to speak at his funeral

I better outlive him.