Life GF of 3 years left me yesterday.... - Page 13

Pushead2 · 01-04-2011, 07:55 AM

She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore.....

I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window.

I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think?

Pushead2 · 01-04-2011, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Extra Point

Good. Then FIX IT!

I'm afraid it's over & damage is done....

FAX · 01-04-2011, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

I'm afraid it's over & damage is done....

Maybe. Maybe not.

The point is that you'll never know unless or until you get your head together and your priorities straight. You guys have been together for 3 years, man. Think about it. Most girls would have demanded a commitment by now.

Were I in your shoes, I would take FAX's advice as described above and start focusing on your life. If she wants to be with you, the phone works both ways.

FAX

MOhillbilly · 01-04-2011, 02:59 PM

Dont look back. Youll feel better in no time.

Pushead2 · 01-04-2011, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by FAX

Maybe. Maybe not.

The point is that you'll never know unless or until you get your head together and your priorities straight. You guys have been together for 3 years, man. Think about it. Most girls would have demanded a commitment by now.

Were I in your shoes, I would take FAX's advice as described above and start focusing on your life. If she wants to be with you, the phone works both ways.

FAX

I am dude trust me. & she said it had nothing to do with commitment for a ring.

**Iowanian** · 01-04-2011, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

I'm afraid it's over & damage is done....

Sounds like she's confirmed what some of us have said.

Truthfully, it's easier that its NOT another guy.

It sounds like she's grown another direction. Wish her well and get busy moving on with your life. Find some things to keep you busy, things that make you happy. It doesn't sound like you were terribly happy either.

run and don't look back.

**DeezNutz** · 01-04-2011, 03:04 PM

Call her back and beg her to marry you. /wise and manly advice

**ChiTown** · 01-04-2011, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

Sounds like she's confirmed what some of us have said.

Truthfully, it's easier that its NOT another guy.

It sounds like she's grown another direction. Wish her well and get busy moving on with your life. Find some things to keep you busy, things that make you happy. It doesn't sound like you were terribly happy either.

run and don't look back.

Quit copying my shit, and get your own message board material

NaptownChief · 01-04-2011, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore.....

Just move forward...clearly not the needed spark for her anymore. Whether you want her back or not just don't sit around being pathetic. Nothing more unattractive than somebody who looks and acts pathetic and weak.

Just say "I love and sorry it didn't work out" and then move forward like all is well. There is a chance that she realizes things were better than she thought and she will come back sniffing around and there is a chance that when she sees you looking happy to have moved on you will become more desirable and find the spark again.

Women need a balancing act....They need you to be sweet and they need you to be a bit of an a$$. They all want guys to be sweet in theory but they need a challenge to keep the spark. If you just roll over and nice and sweet 100% of the time then they have no challenge and lose the spark. If you are an a$$ on occassion then they now have the challenge to try and make you really nice and sweet all the time and the spark usually stays. It's a silly game to have to play but unfortunately required for men if they don't want their old ladies getting bored and out shopping for something with the new car smell.

**Donger** · 01-04-2011, 03:13 PM

Not to be indelicate, but have you considered that perhaps her egg head world now doesn't mesh well with a hockey player-type?

Earthling · 01-04-2011, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by FAX

That "never look back" stuff is easier said than done. But, it's good advice, nonetheless.

I once dated a nurse who worked at UCLA. Redhead. Nice tittahs. Nice blue eyes. She took care of me for a few weeks while I was in the hospital and then for a few weeks more once I was released. I messed up somehow ... probably got drunk, ate some Quaaludes, and said or did some outrageous and unspeakably horrific things or something along those lines. Anyhow, after she broke it off, I called her for a date and she said, "Never go back.". Apparently, I missed my one and only opportunity for a long and loving relationship with that particular nurse. Dang.

FAX

Oh...She wasn't a real redhead.

JD10367 · 01-04-2011, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by NaptownChief

Women need a balancing act....They need you to be sweet and they need you to be a bit of an a$$. They all want guys to be sweet in theory but they need a challenge to keep the spark. If you just roll over and nice and sweet 100% of the time then they have no challenge and lose the spark. If you are an a$$ on occassion then they now have the challenge to try and make you really nice and sweet all the time and the spark usually stays. It's a silly game to have to play but unfortunately required for men if they don't want their old ladies getting bored and out shopping for something with the new car smell.

Quite possibly the stupidest thing I've read on the Internet, and that's saying something. A long-term permanent relationship is supposed to be about love. Love is not about "being a bit of an ass" under any circumstances.

01-04-2011, 03:17 PM

Frankly, I've no idea how to respond with my relationship wisdom on this thread without seeing pictures of the gal in question.

**ChiTown** · 01-04-2011, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JD10367

Quite possibly the stupidest thing I've read on the Internet, and that's saying something. A long-term permanent relationship is supposed to be about love. Love is not about "being a bit of an ass" under any circumstances.

Then you are doing it wrong.............

**Donger** · 01-04-2011, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by JD10367

Quite possibly the stupidest thing I've read on the Internet, and that's saying something. A long-term permanent relationship is supposed to be about love. Love is not about "being a bit of an ass" under any circumstances.

I don't agree. I would argue that most, if not all, women require drama. Obviously with varying levels from a lot to a little, but I've never known one who was fine with none. Women are CONSTANTLY thinking and/or worrying about things. I don't understand it (and don't really want to), but to ignore it is folly.

tooge · 01-04-2011, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Frankly, I've no idea how to respond with my relationship wisdom on this thread without seeing pictures of the gal in question.

What he said! CP is slacking.

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