Why do girls text me at 11, saying "are you up?" and then promptly disappear into the ether?

Do they have ****ing ADD or what?

Depends upon how you replied.

"Yup."

Well, therein lies your problem Romeo.

The question I need to ask you is this: What have you done for the HOT girl who gave you a BJ? From the sound of it, you met this girl for a couple of hours, she sauntered over to the park with you, got down on her knees and gave you a BJ.

What did you do? You patted her on the back!! That's the thanks she gets?

Dude, there are a zillion guys out there who would crawl on their knees across county line to get a BJ from a HOT chick.

I have no idea what your relationship is with this girl and I'm sure you were very elated with the event in the park, but it doesn't appear you've acknowledged her willfulness in any way.

Don't get me wrong, but you don't come off as the kind of guy who can waltz into any bar and get a girl to go home with you. I'm sorry, but you're just not that charming. So, frankly, I have to suspect that the girl just wanted to give you a BJ that night. She likes doing that sort of stuff. She just might be a HOT and horny girl, but even horny girls want you to shower them with appreciation other than a "pat on the back."

This is just my hypothesis for I have absolutely no idea what has transpired between you and this girl. But when she asks "are you up?" and you reply with "Yup." It's not the girl who has ADD, it's the dude who doesn't get it.

Nah, I was gonna take her out for a really nice dinner...we stayed in touch and communicated but shit happens. Whatever. I was definitely prepared to bend over backwards for her after the impromptu BJ.

I guess. The way my mind works is this - that was a yes or no question.

What am I supposed to say? "Yes, want me to come over?" I've never even met the damn girl.

I understand. And trust me, I'm not trying to mock you or embarrass you, but you haven't taken her to a 'really nice dinner' and you 'prepared to bend over backwards for her' but you haven't done that yet. So, in essence, all you've done is communicated with her.

Don't be a tool- if the chick is as HOT as you say and she was willing to give you a BJ as you said, then if I were you- I'd be crawling to her and lavishing her with whatever it is you have to offer her.

Otherwise, my money is on the fact she'll never call/text you again.

WTF else was I supposed to do? I made my intentions clear. I told her she deserved a hell of lot more than Chili's. She evidently didn't want to go out for a really nice dinner.

Anyway if you read the last few posts you would realize what happened.

The entire Planet already knows what happened.

Dude... **** that!. You have to develop some fuggin swagger about yourself. And you for damn sure aint going to get it over the Internet.
Has it ever occurred to you that you're probably socially weird and need to develop a sense of interaction with people?

Chalk it up as a blow job from a hot chick and there's plenty more where that came from?

"Nice dinner", oozes "clingy/moving too fast".
Get a BJ and next time reward her by going down on her. If she wants to :hump: you 3+ times then that's when you start making plans to GRADUALLY do nice things.

Anything less than 3-4 times is just a bootycall and that's it (no matter how fine/sexy/hot she is).

SWAGGER UP!

There won't be a next time.

Dude, we all know that. WE'RE TRYING TO HELP YOU GET A NEXT TIME with the next chick should their ever be one.

Honestly, I don't think it was anything I did.

Thats hapened to me before. I think chicks dont want us to think of them as sluts so they cut ties and move on.

who knows

If so, it was pretty weird considering she told me she was a nymphomaniac and I responded on our first date by DOWNPLAYING any sexual advance besides kissing (she was on her period). I made it very clear I was in it for MORE than just sex.

So, I was SHOCKED when she made a move towards my nether regions.

But now she got in a car accident and is going through therapy (neck) and might have to move to Missouri so...I think that has more to do with it than anything.

Or maybe my dick tastes funny. Who the **** knows?

Or maybe you shouldn't tell ANYONE you're wanting something more than s3x on a dating internet site.

Dude you fugging reak of you neediness/sense of belonging/clingy. Knock it off or you're going to forever wonder "what happened?".

- No arm around a chick until at the very least the 2nd date maybe even 3rd or 4th.
- Only hug when welcoming or saying good bye.

- No admission of you wanting a relationship (no matter how hot the chick is) until after 2-3 weeks of getting to know her.
If pressed for or given an ultimatum, say you're open to it. Don't blow your load all in one wad.

- No bringing up sex first in person. Even if u2 chatted about it heavily over the net. When you meet her... Let her give u a signal she wants you. Don't just dive in. Women don't like to feel rushed.

Play it more low key and stop acting like the dog on Transformers and you may get a 2nd date every once in a while.

:spock:

:shake:

Hahahahahaha.

Your advice sucks.

minor threat wrote a song about your dumb ****in ass gc.

Which one?

Small Man, Big Mouth
Out of Step (With the World)
Sob Story

Show some asserrtivness. Call her up and tell her to meet you at the bar again. All goes well BJ leads to walk of shame.

Dude, I was plenty assertive.

Ain't happening.

On to the next girl.

Says the guy that can't bag a nympho and got left by himself at the movies.
Keep doing what you do.

Did you ejaculate in her mouth?

Hey, if I followed your advice I would have had no fun at all the other night.

Terrible. Just terrible.

Nope. I didn't ejaculate at all.

Did you ejaculate at all?

if you meet a chick that goes down on you that quick, she's not looking for a nice dinner, she's looking to get f**ked. hard.

and when she asks you if you are still awake at 11pm, don't just say yes, say you are up and ready to bend her over the kitchen sink.

Did she stop of her own volition or did you remove her?

Women are fickle. The slightest hint of you being clingy can send a girl running. I have found that at first you need to show them you don't care. Don't treat them like crap by any means but show them that if its not them its someone else. If they fall for you, then you can start showing them you care and they will take it one of two ways.

A) They will return the favor and all will go well

B) They get scared off because a relationship was never what they really wanted.

Dating is a crap shoot my friend. You will lose far more than you win.

That's why she kept telling me she was looking for a long-term relationship?


We're talking about different chicks.

Besides that second one is just weird. She doesn't want sex, at least not right now. An hour after she texts me, she replies to my reply and starts whining about getting fired from her job.

Strange.

She had family business to attend to. It was her little sister's prom night.

That isn't what I asked you.

I answered your question. She stopped of her own volition.

No, you didn't. You could have asked/made her stop knowing that she had to go.

This. Most women cant stand it. Ive done it too with chicks I really liked and it scares them away. So now I just play it cool. If they want me they want me, if they don't they don't. Not going to lose sleep over it.

Yeah, make a chick stop in the middle of a blowjob.

GREAT IDEA!

Maybe you made her feel bad about her self, not cumming and all. She went home, blew a banana for practice and cried her self to sleep.

I've done it more times than I can recall. And, what makes you think that it is a worse idea than her stopping in the middle of it?

I'm pretty sure the blowjob was irrelevant, guys.

ROFL

Obviously.

Bite your tongue. A blow job is always relevant.

God, this is the Hall of Fail.

Here's something awesome: the second chick I went on a date with in this thread moved to MINNESOTA!

I chased her away! ROFL

This is awesome. I never e-mail black women, and always ignore them.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/20...rite-you-back/

• Black women write back the most. Whether it’s due to talkativeness, loneliness, or a sense of plain decency, black women are by far the most likely to respond to a first contact attempt. In many cases, their response rate is one and a half times the average, and, overall, black women reply about a quarter more often that other women.

• White men get more responses. Whatever it is, white males just get more replies from almost every group. We were careful to preselect our data pool so that physical attractiveness (as measured by our site picture-rating utility) was roughly even across all the race/gender slices. For guys, we did likewise with height.

• White women prefer white men to the exclusion of everyone else—and Asian and Hispanic women prefer them even more exclusively. These three types of women only respond well to white men. More significantly, these groups’ reply rates to non-whites is terrible. Asian women write back non-white males at 21.9%, Hispanic women at 22.9%, and white women at 23.0%. It’s here where things get interesting, for white women in particular. If you look at the match-by-race table before this one, the “should-look-like” one, you see that white women have an above-average compatibility with almost every group. Yet they only reply well to guys who look like them. There’s more data on this towards the end of the post.

• Men don’t write black women back. Or rather, they write them back far less often than they should. Black women reply the most, yet get by far the fewest replies. Essentially every race—including other blacks—singles them out for the cold shoulder.

• White guys are shitty, but fairly even-handed about it. The average reply rate of non-white males is 48.1%, while white guys’ is only 40.5%. Basically, they write back about 20% less often. It’s ironic that white guys are worst responders, because as we saw above they get the most replies. That has apparently made them very self-absorbed. It’s interesting that white males do manage to reply to Middle Eastern women. Is there some kind of emergent fetish there? As Middle Easterners are becoming America’s next racial bogeyman, maybe there’s some kind of forbidden fruit thing going on. (Perhaps a reader more up-to-date on his or her Post-Colonial Theory can step in here? Just kidding. Don’t.)

I didn't think it was possible, but you were less pathetic as a virgin.

ROFL

Sweet. She finally says something.

ROFL

Shit son.


ROFL

I said "lol, at least you finally replied."

This is the girl that I had a great date with then fell of the face of the planet. 2nd date of my life. Blew me away! It was chronicled in this thread, too.

This is the first contact since. SUCCESS!

Any suggestions?

**** that bitch.

Obviously. But I'd still like to know what was so terribly wrong with me that she wouldn't even talk to me again, especially after she kissed me so well and asked if I was married.

Cuz shes ****ing crazy!

heres wat you do. Keep sending her messages (preferably strange/creepy ones) till she folds.

Next you meet up with her, mate and live happily ever after..

Afterall this is really wat shes trying to tell you when shes tells u to stop messaging her...

LOL, you are a creeper..

Not really dude. I looked at her profile because she put up a new pic and she's a pretty girl I went out with once. Harmless.

She's history dude! Now post her pic so we can all see what this crazy sketch looks like.

She's actually very pretty. I think the Asperger's made her crazy.

http://i38.tinypic.com/xpak9g.jpg

She has a firm grip.

I would stalk her profile.

She's just playing hard to get.

Moving is testing your level of commitment.

It could be a trick. Like when girls say they have a boyfriend.

See, you're on to her.... call her bluff.

Clearly she saw something she liked...why else look at my profile?

I know her true intentions.

Thats what I am talking about. Moving is just a ploy to throw you off, testing you. She didnt move, she is just seeing how easily you'd give up, IF she moved. Pssst oldest trick in the book, dont buy it.

No I meant you gave her the creeper vibe..

Yeah. Ain't it cool?

Obviously she is hating the game and not the player. Minnesota is a street, not a state. Play on.

Nice work! Yeah any genetic social disorder generally creates a bad dating environment...

In other words, he'd P Inur Butt.

lol

lmao I told her she is too far away, and she says...

Think she wants to bang?

Shes just after that sexy brain of yours Clay.

No harm in sowing a few seeds, you never know...

Eh, she's kind of ugly, and now suddenly she disappears.

Women... :rolleyes:

Amen brother. Oh well if she wasnt worth it...

Shes not bad but kinda flat chested but you should still keep looking at her profile just to piss her off lol.

I hope she keeps putting up photos. :evil:

ROFL