Sounds like you all need to come hear my wife-training sermons.
She used to gripe because I didn't help enough around the house. Then she started griping about the job I did when helping around the house. After about 6 months of this I told her to forget it, if I was going to get yelled at, I was going to deserve it. So I quit doing just about everything. Now she just pretty much keeps her mouth shut when I help out around the house now.