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Originally Posted by cdcox
Those that say that we aren't wired to be monogamous are only recognizing half of the evidence. Jealousy is antagonistic to polygomy. If we were wired to be purely polygomists we would have shed that useless emotion in our evolutionary past. Emotional attachment to someone you are intimate with is also harmful to a polygomist wiring.
Most accurately, humans are in a state of tension between the desire to form deep and lasting bonds with a member of the opposite sex and the desire to get some strange. Social norms have favored one side of this tension or the other in different ways at different times. The statement that we've only had monogomy for 60 years is either grossly uninformed or a pure lie.
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exactly. I think that the farther back you go down the evolutionary tree, the farther away you get from that emotion (jealousy) and the closer you get to true polygamy. I would guess that is in part because when tribes are roaming around, it becomes more and more difficult to bond with that person. As they become more and more stable with regards to location, which happened about the time we figured out agriculture, then you see the same individuals every day. When this happens, you begin to see where you fit in the group. You begin to see materialism develop, and once it does, then a good mate becomes something you want and dont want anyone else to have. Hence jealousy. Not to mention, that underlying all of this is the fact that we ARE programmed to spread OUR genetic material first and foremost, and if another male is circling your mate, that is a direct threat to this happening. Again, jealousy.