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12-24-2012, 12:52 AM | Topic Starter |
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Should I confront my fiance over text messages I found?
I guarantee this thread isn't going to be about what the thread title might have led you to think it's about. Sorry about that...
Anyway -- was reading text messages on my fiance's cell phone (Yes, I do that, I'm a privacy invader...but past relationships have led me to be a little paranoid). I read texts between her and her sister and mom, basically trashing my family, which is who we're spending Christmas Eve with. It wasn't just like your usual, "not really looking forward to going to the in-laws", but it was actually pretty vicious stuff. She was trashing my mom's cooking, basically saying she doesn't like my mom at all (my family has been AMAZING to her)..complaining that all we do is "sit around and talk with a sports game on the TV), trashing my parents house, my sister and her "annoying kid". It was really nasty stuff and a side of her I haven't really seen before. Question is -- do I confront her? This is all that's gonna be on my mind tomorrow, but confronting her means I have to admit to reading her text messages. I don't know how I can move forward knowing she's been talking all this shit about my family though. |
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12-24-2012, 12:53 AM | #2 |
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heh, not married yet...definitely confront her.
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12-24-2012, 12:54 AM | #3 |
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Simple solution aka Antifreeze.
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12-24-2012, 12:55 AM | #4 |
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You confront her if she steps out of line tomorrow.
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12-24-2012, 01:20 AM | #5 |
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You have the right idea, i'd just spank that ass.
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12-24-2012, 12:56 AM | #6 |
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Well, does she put on a nice front to your family, or does she kind of just ignore them and nod a lot when they talk to her? Is your relationship going well between the two of you?
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- Yes, the relationship is going very well and yes, she puts on a great front. No coldness or awkwardness at all. Which is why this is so shocking to me. - Yes, the alternative is basically sit back and do nothing. Which seems wrong to me. |
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12-24-2012, 02:08 PM | #8 | |
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So, yes confront her. Don't worry about checking her phone. That is not a huge deal. Deceiving you and being dishonest is a much bigger deal than invading privacy. |
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12-24-2012, 12:57 AM | #9 |
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What's the alternative? Sit back, say nothing, and watch her be completely false with your family?
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12-24-2012, 04:45 AM | #10 |
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12-24-2012, 12:58 AM | #11 |
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This is some flaweless technique here. Dwight Freeney spin move esque.
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12-24-2012, 12:58 AM | #12 |
**** you, you cretin.
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I would confront my fiancée for sure.
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12-24-2012, 12:59 AM | #13 |
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I assume the typical CP responses to slip it in her ass hole during sex tonight.
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12-24-2012, 01:00 AM | #14 |
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Yeah you definitely have to confront her, This could definitely pull you two apart at a later date down the road.....Privacy in marriage is overrated.
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12-24-2012, 01:01 AM | #15 |
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If you confront her, just realize the relationship might never be the same. She will pull the trust card on you for checking her texts. If you can outweigh the pros over the cons between you two, I would just move on from it.
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