Life How do you deal with this?

Otter · 12-20-2010, 02:34 PM

One of my oldest friends came down for the weekend who's been having a bad run of luck with divorce and money and the whole shitty economy in general. I've had $300 dollars in cash in the same spot forever, it's just cash on hand money that I keep in the house and it's gone.

I was roommates in college with this guy and known him since I was 10 years old. He already owns my $1300 and I think he just stole off me.

Can't even describe how I feel right now. I trusted this guy, he would have been the best man in my wedding if I got married next week. I feel like my Mom just called me ugly, I'm freaking heartbroken. How would you approach this? How do you even bring this up?

Jesus, I hope I'm wrong but I really don't know how I can be unless the money grew legs and walked away.

MOhillbilly · 12-20-2010, 02:36 PM

i would sit and wait to see what/how his reaction is. if he calls/connects in the same way as before.

and be double sure its gone & he was the only one who had access to it.

Otter · 12-20-2010, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

i would sit and wait to see what/how his reaction is. if he calls/connects in the same way as before.

and be double sure its gone & he was the only one who had access to it.

I did make sure it's gone. I tore apart the whole drawer where it was and unless someone broke in while we were out and left all my guns and every other valuable I have but took the money there's no other logical explanation.

If this was anyone else there would be kneecapping in the works but I can't with this guy. This is a shitty feeling.

MOhillbilly · 12-20-2010, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Otter

I did make sure it's gone. I tore apart the whole drawer where it was and unless someone broke in while we were out and left all my guns and every other valuable I have but took the money there's no other logical explanation.

If this was anyone else there would be kneecapping in the works but I can't with this guy. This is a shitty feeling.

swallow it down and be stone cold about it. Its the only way.

Otter · 12-20-2010, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

swallow it down and be stone cold about it. Its the only way.

That's gonna be rough Mo, like I said I'm sleeping on it for right now. I really want to be sure.

MOhillbilly · 12-20-2010, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Otter

That's gonna be rough Mo, like I said I'm sleeping on it for right now. I really want to be sure.

for sure sleep on it.

if i can do it after the month i had, you can.

sometimes you just gotta put a bullet in a relationship no matter how bad it tears you apart.
If its gotta be done, its gotta be done.

blaise · 12-20-2010, 02:38 PM

That's tough. I would probably call him and say, "Dude, you really needed it that bad? Keep it, and don't bother calling me again. Or put it under my door tonight and I'll pretend it never happened."

**HemiEd** · 12-20-2010, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by blaise

That's tough. I would probably call him and say, "Dude, you really needed it that bad? Keep it, and don't bother calling me again. Or put it under my door tonight and I'll pretend it never happened."

I agree.

The guy has already caused you a lot of grief, you shouldn't have to keep it under your hat.

Get it off your chest, and move on, or it will eat you up.

Extra Point · 12-20-2010, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by blaise

That's tough. I would probably call him and say, "Dude, you really needed it that bad? Keep it, and don't bother calling me again. Or put it under my door tonight and I'll pretend it never happened."

Pearls of wisdom.

Fansy the Famous Bard · 12-20-2010, 02:38 PM

Wow, that's devastating. I'm not sure what I would do. I've had my kids take money from me before, and it's pretty simple to threaten all their lives... turn your back, and the money will mysteriously reappear. Maybe try that?

Jewish Rabbi · 12-20-2010, 02:39 PM

Why would you keep cash stashed in random places? You're just asking for trouble.

MIAdragon · 12-20-2010, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Jewish Rabbi

Why would you keep cash stashed in random places? You're just asking for trouble.

It wasn't random thats the problem.

Pants · 12-20-2010, 02:43 PM

Tell him all he needed to do was ask. That you thought you guys were better friends than that.

That sucks, man.

CaliforniaChief · 12-20-2010, 02:41 PM

What a tough situation. Mo is right...make darned sure it's not there/somewhere else. But then I would just approach it directly. Don't play games, don't "test" him, anything like that.

Dayze · 12-20-2010, 02:41 PM

Re-invite him over; stash some more cash in the same spot; but rig an exploding dye-pack.

Seriously though; good luck. That sucks man.

12-20-2010, 02:34 PM	Topic Starter
Otter Live free or die hard Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Durango, CO Casino cash: $2218382	How do you deal with this? One of my oldest friends came down for the weekend who's been having a bad run of luck with divorce and money and the whole shitty economy in general. I've had $300 dollars in cash in the same spot forever, it's just cash on hand money that I keep in the house and it's gone. I was roommates in college with this guy and known him since I was 10 years old. He already owns my $1300 and I think he just stole off me. Can't even describe how I feel right now. I trusted this guy, he would have been the best man in my wedding if I got married next week. I feel like my Mom just called me ugly, I'm freaking heartbroken. How would you approach this? How do you even bring this up? Jesus, I hope I'm wrong but I really don't know how I can be unless the money grew legs and walked away.
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12-20-2010, 02:36 PM	#2
MOhillbilly Mama Tried Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Missouri Casino cash: $9949903	i would sit and wait to see what/how his reaction is. if he calls/connects in the same way as before. and be double sure its gone & he was the only one who had access to it. __________________ True Son of Liberty
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12-20-2010, 02:38 PM	#7
blaise In Search of a Life Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Plano, TX Casino cash: $9999900	That's tough. I would probably call him and say, "Dude, you really needed it that bad? Keep it, and don't bother calling me again. Or put it under my door tonight and I'll pretend it never happened."
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12-20-2010, 02:38 PM	#10
Fansy the Famous Bard I'm with the Banned Join Date: Feb 2009 Casino cash: $1826440	Wow, that's devastating. I'm not sure what I would do. I've had my kids take money from me before, and it's pretty simple to threaten all their lives... turn your back, and the money will mysteriously reappear. Maybe try that? __________________ Hi.
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12-20-2010, 02:39 PM	#11
Jewish Rabbi What's up braj? Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Placencia, Belize Casino cash: $1538320	Why would you keep cash stashed in random places? You're just asking for trouble.
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12-20-2010, 02:43 PM	#13
Pants Time Keeps On Slipping Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Overland Park Casino cash: $5419900	Tell him all he needed to do was ask. That you thought you guys were better friends than that. That sucks, man. __________________ "Turn the channel to 26!"
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12-20-2010, 02:41 PM	#14
CaliforniaChief #RIPAce Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: So Cal Casino cash: $12162899	What a tough situation. Mo is right...make darned sure it's not there/somewhere else. But then I would just approach it directly. Don't play games, don't "test" him, anything like that.
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12-20-2010, 02:41 PM	#15
Dayze Resident Glue Sniffer Join Date: Nov 2003 Casino cash: $4679358	Re-invite him over; stash some more cash in the same spot; but rig an exploding dye-pack. Seriously though; good luck. That sucks man. __________________ Life is 99% inspiration, 1% Perspiration, and 1% Attention to Detial. RIP & Godspeed: Saccoppo Lonewolf Ed Fire Me Boy
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