Life Would you allow your wife/girlfriend to be a surrogate?

Bump · 05:27 PM

Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm.

This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor.

Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure.

Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses.

Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again.

These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing.

$750,000 for nine months of work, would you?

AndChiefs · 04-24-2011, 05:08 PM

It's hard to imagine anyone saying no to this question.

Bump · 04-24-2011, 05:08 PM

forgot the NO option

ooops, poll fail I guess

HoneyBadger · 04-24-2011, 05:21 PM

Hell I would, and I'm not even a girl.

**alnorth** · 04-24-2011, 05:30 PM

This is kind of a fanciful question, because surrogates get nowhere near that kind of money, more like a couple or few tens of thousands. There are no shortage of women willing to carry a kid for money. (Incidentally, from what I understand you gotta be careful about where you do this. In some states, the surrogate can change her mind and keep the kid. Other states allow for legal binding agreements before pregnancy.)

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by alnorth

This is kind of a fanciful question, because surrogates get nowhere near that kind of money, more like a couple or few tens of thousands. There are no shortage of women willing to carry a kid for money. (Incidentally, from what I understand you gotta be careful about where you do this. In some states, the surrogate can change her mind and keep the kid. Other states allow for legal binding agreements before pregnancy.)

My aunt paid north of 100k to have this done 4 years ago.

**alnorth** · 04-24-2011, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by MIAdragon

My aunt paid north of 100k to have this done 4 years ago.

Yep, and a lot of that money probably went for stuff other than the surrogate's bank account, if you went to a professional surrogate company who knew what they were doing. It is a pretty big deal, you gotta get special insurance in place who accepts surrogacy (obviously expensive because the insurance goes in knowing they are covering a pregnancy), the lawyer needs to be paid, there's the surrogate's expenses, etc.

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 05:32 PM

Nope, let's forget the impact on her body the emotional impact that would come from giving away the baby would be massive, not worth it.

dtforever · 04-24-2011, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MIAdragon

Nope, let's forget the impact on her body the emotional impact that would come from giving away the baby would be massive, not worth it.

This couldn't be further from the truth. But that is just based on my personal experience with this scenario.

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by dtforever

This couldn't be further from the truth. But that is just based on my personal experience with this scenario.

I disagree, also based personal experience with this exact scenario. I don't see how you can refute the maternal bonding that takes place between the unborn baby and mother. Now take said baby away and what do you get, butterflies and rainbows? I'm guessing you haven't been lucky enough to experience the boom boom to bombs away first hand, it doesn't happen like you see in the movies. But feel free to be wrong.

dtforever · 04-25-2011, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by MIAdragon

I disagree, also based personal experience with this exact scenario. I don't see how you can refute the maternal bonding that takes place between the unborn baby and mother. Now take said baby away and what do you get, butterflies and rainbows? I'm guessing you haven't been lucky enough to experience the boom boom to bombs away first hand, it doesn't happen like you see in the movies. But feel free to be wrong.

I didn't see it in a movie, and I know I am 100% correct relative to my personal experience.

**notorious** · 04-25-2011, 01:10 PM

$750K for 9 months.

That's an easy one. Yes.

None of the genes are ours so I wouldn't have a blood connection. My wife would be heart-broken but that would pass,too, when she realizes it is someone else's genetics at work.

Reerun_KC · 04-24-2011, 05:33 PM

Nope, not worth it. MIAdragon touched on alot of the key points...

The physical impact is great on a womens body. After my wife and I had our second, we decided then that it was time NOT to have anymore. It was just so taxing on her.

**bevischief** · 04-24-2011, 05:54 PM

I can't have kids and at this point don't really want one or more, health issues for both of us. We have dogs. My brother in law luck out and found a teenager that was looking for good parents. My niece is 2 and they still interact with the birth mother's family.

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

I can't have kids and at this point don't really want one or more, health issues for both of us. We have dogs. My brother in law luck out and found a teenager that was looking for good parents. My niece is 2 and they still interact with the birth mother's family.

View Poll Results: ?
I don't care what she does, whatever	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $30K	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $100K	6	8.33%
I'd let her do it for $500K	6	8.33%
I'd do the deal in a heartbeat!	11	15.28%
I'd have to think about it, but would lean towards going through with it	7	9.72%
I would require a cool million	3	4.17%
I would require more than a million	6	8.33%
I'd let her screw Gaz so I could raise his kid	2	2.78%
No dice.	23	31.94%
Voters: 72. You may not vote on this poll

04-24-2011, 05:05 PM	Topic Starter
Bump YOU take YOUR seat Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $1745105	Would you allow your wife/girlfriend to be a surrogate? Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm. This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor. Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure. Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses. Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again. These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing. $750,000 for nine months of work, would you? Last edited by Bump; 04-24-2011 at 05:27 PM..
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04-24-2011, 05:08 PM	#2
AndChiefs Bazinga! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Houston, TX Casino cash: $1171820	It's hard to imagine anyone saying no to this question.
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Bump YOU take YOUR seat Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $1745105	forgot the NO option ooops, poll fail I guess __________________
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HoneyBadger The chosen one Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: OC, California Casino cash: $1205760	Hell I would, and I'm not even a girl.
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alnorth . Join Date: Dec 2002 Casino cash: $57166239	This is kind of a fanciful question, because surrogates get nowhere near that kind of money, more like a couple or few tens of thousands. There are no shortage of women willing to carry a kid for money. (Incidentally, from what I understand you gotta be careful about where you do this. In some states, the surrogate can change her mind and keep the kid. Other states allow for legal binding agreements before pregnancy.) __________________ how many emo kids does it take to change a lightbulb? HOW MANY?! none they just sit in the dark and cry
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04-24-2011, 05:32 PM	#8
MIAdragon Someone pass the antifreeze Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Miami (North Cuba) Casino cash: $1107819	Nope, let's forget the impact on her body the emotional impact that would come from giving away the baby would be massive, not worth it.
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04-25-2011, 01:10 PM	#12
notorious Supporter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Who knows? Casino cash: $2435884	$750K for 9 months. That's an easy one. Yes. None of the genes are ours so I wouldn't have a blood connection. My wife would be heart-broken but that would pass,too, when she realizes it is someone else's genetics at work.
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04-24-2011, 05:33 PM	#13
Reerun_KC Rock Chalk Jayhawks! KU!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $8261160	Nope, not worth it. MIAdragon touched on alot of the key points... The physical impact is great on a womens body. After my wife and I had our second, we decided then that it was time NOT to have anymore. It was just so taxing on her.
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04-24-2011, 05:54 PM	#14
bevischief .... Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Somewhere Kansas Casino cash: $8659352 VARSITY	I can't have kids and at this point don't really want one or more, health issues for both of us. We have dogs. My brother in law luck out and found a teenager that was looking for good parents. My niece is 2 and they still interact with the birth mother's family.
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