anyone out there? I need to talk

[Brando]

bitch called the 5-0 on me tonight because we were having an argument. since she knows I would never hurt her she told them that I was trying to hurt myself. I got lucky. Cops talked to both of us and called BS and told her that she needed to go somewhere else. when they first showed up they said that they would have to take me to the looney bin for a 96 hour evaluation. luckily the officer was pretty understanding.

[chappy]

holy shit is that greg robinson?

[chappy]

sorry about your luck man women suck. just got to go with the flow and forget about that crazy chick

[tk13]

Errr, that really sucks. I hate giving marital and relationship advice and such, but from everything I've read I think it would be in your best interest to get as far away from this woman as possible. It's sad that she has just snapped like this...

[Brando]

I looked at a few places. Nothing till next month. I'm thinking about moving in with a buddy in Parkville. Everything was very cool earlier. She was extremely kind and nurturing. I went out to watch the game. Came home and asked her to talk as long as she was going to be in the house. She got in my face screaming. I yelled back. I said that I was going to leave and she would never hear from me again. She asked where I was going and I said to get drunk and pass out in a gutter. She decides to call the cops and tell them that I'm going to harm myself.

[Brando]

Originally Posted by ENDelt260

From the limited information you've posted on here, that sounds like it might be a good idea. At least temporarily until you can find something more permanent. If cops are getting involved, sounds like it's just time to get the fuck out of there post haste.

The cop told me to get my shit out before she messed with it. She actually said this to him when he asked her what was wrong with me, "what's wrong with me? he's perfect. he's caring, loving, just perfect. why did I screw this up?"

[Brando]

Originally Posted by ENDelt260

Obviously I've never been engaged, but I've had my fair share of experiences with nutty broads. All I can say is run. Run fast. Run far. Too bad I'm too stupid to follow my own advice. Friday night I found myself in a hotel room with the craziest female I've ever dated.

It's impossible to stay away from nutty broads. They're all nuts.

[big nasty kcnut]

Run brando get out of the house you don't know what shit she might pull next like hitting you and stuff like that leave and find a good woman.

[mcan]

So, she's starting to feel the loss. It happens man. I'm sorry she handles it so badly. When my parents were still together, and I was just a kid, the cops used to come over quite a bit. My Mom is crazy, and my Dad is close. Both were/are alcoholics. It's amazing that I turned out as normal as I did. I think the biggest reason for that is the fact that I decided when I was a little kid that I would NEVER drink. I've kept that promise to myself, and I'm glad I did.


So, just to clarify. Did you give her ANY impression that you might hurt yourself besides the gutter comment? Is there any possibility that she might have honestly been worried about that? Or, do you think she just needed to do something extreme to try and "win?" My mom does that kind of shit when she is losing an argument. She has: Thrown scissors at my Dad (that stuck in the wall), punched a giant pane of glass in a cabinet and cut herself to the bone, written hate poetry on the walls in sharpie, and the last time she did this she actually set herself ON FIRE! That's right, my step-dad and her were arguing, and he said, "I'm done with this conversation, I'm going to bed." Then she said, "No you're not!" and took the grill lighter and lit her clothes and hair on fire. He had to tackle her and put her out, and take her to the emergency room for extreme burns.


I'm only saying all this to illustrate the type of person that makes extreme, rash, illogical, and potentially catastrophic choices in the heat of the moment. These kinds of people do things ON PRINCIPLE, just to show the world how RIGHT they are, even if it makes no real sense at all. If you think that she might have been motivated in a similar way as this, then you should be extra glad that you're getting out of there. She might end up like my mother, and I feel sorry for anybody who has to live with someone like that...

[Taco John]

Originally Posted by Brando

The cop told me to get my shit out before she messed with it. She actually said this to him when he asked her what was wrong with me, "what's wrong with me? he's perfect. he's caring, loving, just perfect. why did I screw this up?"

What's the story with her father? Good guy? Absent?

If you want to know why a girl is screwed up, the first place you look is her relationship with her father. Something happened there that makes her want to sabotage her relationships.

You could make it work with her, but it'd take a lot of work, and you'd both need to be in counseling... probably together and alone.

Her calling the cops was a cry for help. She's frustrated that she screwed this thing up and once you left, she lost control of the situation. It doesn't sound like she did it out of spite. Especially given the comment she made to the cop. That was a message intended for you, whether she even realizes it or not. Human communication is a fascinating thing.

She's stuck in a pretty destructive cycle... Probably feels like her life is out of control... Sounds like she's pretty flitty, and just acts on impulse without thinking through the consequences. Not sure what the energy between her and her father is, but I'm sure that it about completes the picture. Sounds like a high maintenance one... Of course they all are...

If she hasn't slept with the dude yet, and you care enough to swallow some pride, I'm telling ya... You can make it work. But the question is whether SHE is willing to do the work to make it work. She needs a therapist to work out why she is so self destructive. And to do that, she needs to come to grips with the fact that there is something wrong upstairs that might need adjusted. And even then... Just like Alcoholics... Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.

Personally, I think I'd bail. Thank God I didn't take my Interpersonal Communication Theory classes until after I was in a long term relationship with a girl who didn't need rescued from herself or I might have ended up with a real project on my hands.

[HolmeZz]

AIN'T THE 5-0, Y'ALL KNOW IT'Z NAS, YO.

[Manila-Chief]

Brando,

Been busy and just saw this. Hopefully, you are getting your zzzz by now. You do need rest in these situations.

I agree with the cop. Get your stuff out of there ASAP. If you have no where else for it ... then take it to one of those temp. storage places.... a little costly but safer for you and your things.

She called the cops over nothing ... there is no telling what such a women will do. She may do something to herself and blame it on you, just to get you into trouble.

Whose name is your present lease? If possible let her have the responsibility for settling with the landlord. She is the one who decided to end it, therefore it should be her responsibility to settle all accounts. But, if the lease is under your name be sure all items are settled ... I say that for the sake of your credit rating.

But, yeah man!!!! Get out of there now!!!! Don't trust her and don't even talk with her.

Seems to me that what happened is she has realized she made a big mistake by dumping you. That realization caused her to feel guilty and thus the screaming at you. She was actually irritated because of her mistake. In a way she was fighting herself.

I just stopped and prayed for you.

[Bob Dole]

As someone who went through 5+ years of this type of crap, Bob Dole would have to agree with the "run away" course of action.

The passive-aggressive behavior that you're telling us about is all too familiar. While she may have problems that she needs to address, they are her problems and aren't your responsibility. Don't fool yourslef into believing that your love and support can help her through. She's already illustrated that she's too selfish for it to matter.

[Simplex3]

Originally Posted by Brando

I looked at a few places. Nothing till next month. I'm thinking about moving in with a buddy in Parkville. Everything was very cool earlier. She was extremely kind and nurturing. I went out to watch the game. Came home and asked her to talk as long as she was going to be in the house. She got in my face screaming. I yelled back. I said that I was going to leave and she would never hear from me again. She asked where I was going and I said to get drunk and pass out in a gutter. She decides to call the cops and tell them that I'm going to harm myself.

Ah ha! Here is your issue. She thinks you're just all torn up over her and can't possibly be Ok. Here's what you need to do:

Come home with a hooker. Late. She doesn't need to know it's a hooker and the pro sure won't tell her if you let her in on the game. Show up late. Bust open the bedroom door, hooker on your arm, and tell this bitch "hey, can you go sleep on the couch? I just met this chick at (local hangout) and we need some time alone."

Now, it doesn't matter if she leaves the room or not, the damage will be done. Hell, you don't even have to actually sleep with the pro (which means any common escort who's willing to act will work), just so long as she thinks you did.

A cheaper variant of this which packs even a little more punch: if you have a female friend that is yours, not hers, and willing to do a little acting, you can actually get the above benefits AND make her have to wonder how long you two have been doing it.

By all means, you need to show this bitch she isn't running your life. Stay with a friend, get a hotel room, SOMETHING.

[Simplex3]

Originally Posted by mcan

...and the last time she did this she actually set herself ON FIRE! That's right, my step-dad and her were arguing, and he said, "I'm done with this conversation, I'm going to bed." Then she said, "No you're not!" and took the grill lighter and lit her clothes and hair on fire. He had to tackle her and put her out, and take her to the emergency room for extreme burns.

WOW. You know, after a year or so of that abuse I might have gone for the marshmellows instead of putting her out. No offense, her being your mom and all, but that's absurd.