My ex had her baby last night...

[JD10367]

Sometimes I think parts of this site might be on the...

[soopamanluva]

I don't know what else to say to you. You have been given sound advice here , you just need to apply it to your life but I know you aren't ready to do that.

Another question, why is your self esteem so low? What happened to make you think that it's ok for you to settle for this?

[pr_capone]

Originally Posted by MTG#10

I dont know why Im posting this thread, just need to vent. I know I shouldnt be feeling this way, its been almost a year since my wife left but I feel like I just missed the birth of my own child. I knew it was going to happen soon and I thought I was mentally prepared but when her dad called me and told me this morning I quickly realized I wasn't. I cant believe I still love her after everything she's done to me and put me through both emotionally and financially. I would take her back and help her raise her baby in a heartbeat. Thats how much I love her. ****ing pathetic I know. When's this shit going to end? Its been 10 months and it still hurts just as much as the day I found out. Its so hard to keep face in front of my kids, they are so excited to have a new baby sister and I have to pretend Im happy and excited for them but its killing me. I know I have to be strong for my kids and I will but when they are gone I dont know what to do.

8th Circle, 3rd ring from the bottom.

[TEX]

Dude - This one's pretty simple. Get mad and STAY MAD & forget her and get on with your life.

[Otter]

I could understand coming here for advice on something like this back in 2002 or 2003 when it was a small fairly tight nit community but you now have every stroke stick with an internet connection reading what you say, commenting on it and Google archiving it until the end of times.

You can get a good look at a butcher's ass by sticking your head up there. But, wouldn't you rather to take his word for it?

--- I was watching Tommy Boy this morning but that quote seems somehow appropriate

['Hamas' Jenkins]

Originally Posted by Otter

You can get a good look at a butcher's ass by sticking your head up there. But, wouldn't you rather to take his word for it?

--- I was watching Tommy Boy this morning but that quote seems somehow appropriate

There's an additional awesomeness to that quote in this instance...

[MOhillbilly]

Originally Posted by Otter

I could understand coming here for advice on something like this back in 2002 or 2003 when it was a small fairly tight nit community but you now have every stroke stick with an internet connection reading what you say, commenting on it and Google archiving it until the end of times.

You can get a good look at a butcher's ass by sticking your head up there. But, wouldn't you rather to take his word for it?

--- I was watching Tommy Boy this morning but that quote seems somehow appropriate

i quoted tommyboy in this thread aswell. giggle.

[DaFace]

Originally Posted by Otter

I could understand coming here for advice on something like this back in 2002 or 2003 when it was a small fairly tight nit community but you now have every stroke stick with an internet connection reading what you say, commenting on it and Google archiving it until the end of times.

You can get a good look at a butcher's ass by sticking your head up there. But, wouldn't you rather to take his word for it?

--- I was watching Tommy Boy this morning but that quote seems somehow appropriate

To be fair, these threads included a lot of good advice back when things went down about a year ago. I think that everyone's sympathy is waning now that the advice is not being taken and things continue to spiral downward.

[threebag]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o22eIJDtKho&sns=em

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by DaFace

To be fair, these threads included a lot of good advice back when things went down about a year ago. I think that everyone's sympathy is waning now that the advice is not being taken and things continue to spiral downward.

Yeah, a year later it's a little harder to sympathize when it's still the same story. Sort of puts the "pathetic" in "sympathetic". We can all tell him the same stuff we did in 2009, but we can't make him listen or act on any of it

[Pants]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

Yeah, a year later it's a little harder to sympathize when it's still the same story. Sort of puts the "pathetic" in "sympathetic". We can all tell him the same stuff we did in 2009, but we can't make him listen or act on any of it

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

[Deberg_1990]

Originally Posted by Metrolike

I honestly feel bad for the guy.

Why? I did at first....but not anymore.

Hes creating his own misery.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by Metrolike

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

I do sympathize, all I'm saying is that I don't know how worthwhile dispensing advice can possibly be a year later. I'm not sure what anybody can say now that wasn't said then. So I can understand why folks are less patient now.

I think some of the first advice anybody gave him was to seek professional help. And that's clearly what he needs to do. The planet isn't going to solve his problems for him. Nobody's going to solve his problems for him. He's got to do that himself, and it's going to take stronger mojo than we have.

[dirk digler]

Originally Posted by Metrolike

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

That is a load of BS. I was almost in exactly his same shoes. I told him what he needed to do and for awhile he was doing fine but he regressed when he got dumped. He should have seeked counseling, got a divorce, and stop talking to her unless it was about their kids.