Life Signs of attraction - Page 6

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 11:03 AM

Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.

So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them.

I'll start.

1. We keep adjusting our pants.

2. We take off our pants.

3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up.

4. We try to lick your lips.

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

He's old, but he's very, very immature. It averages out to barhopping age.

He's got me pegged right.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

This can be easily simplified.

Treat the Hoooor like a Q
and the Q like a hooooor

and your batting average will be around .350 with a great slugging percentage if you don't have a lazy eye or hump on your back.

A Q?

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

You know what I mean. I'm like the Kawika Mitchell of the dating game...no instincts.

It's not instincts you need, it's BALLS.

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mcan

She's not MY type personally, but in her prime, she was one of the most desired women on the planet. The point was that she KNEW it and BELIEVED it. You hear that all the time. "She knows she hot." And often that's true. But even more often, they'll know it, but not truely believe it. The logical way to combat that, is to tell them that they are beautiful (the truth), and men tend to solve thier problems with logic. (even though it might be flawed logic most of the time). So, that's what guys do. They find a girl who they think is hot, and they compliment them. But it backfires nearly every time. That's because while they know that that they are hot, they don't believe it. They will think that:

1. You're lying to them.
2. You're telling the truth, but your stupid.
3. You're a loser who thinks that all girls are hot.

Think about it. All day, they get hit on. They go get the mail, "hey pretty girl." But deep down, they think it's all a sham. So, all day they are surrounded by guys who desire them, but they don't desire. They must all be losers. So, when they get to the bar/club/whatever, and some guy hits on them they associate THAT guy with all those losers. What a lot of guys think is that they have to be mean to the girl (tell her ass looks big in those pants) in order to seperate themselves from the losers and get attention from these girls. They call this "negative hitting" or "negs." The truth is, you just have to treat these girls as they see themselves while still showing interest. You have to make them feel like they are connected with you and you are not a loser.

These girls don't want to be told that they're beautiful until after the relationship starts, and even then, sparingly... Don't try to convince them, they already KNOW that they are just a 7.

All this from the guy that never hit the chick in his LAST avatar...

KCTitus · 04-27-2005, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

I don't play with action figures.

He keeps them in the original box..they're too valuable.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

It's not instincts you need, it's BALLS.

That's what booze is for.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:20 PM

Queen. (not Drag queen...unless you're into Rupal)...

In short........Be nice to the women that other guys aren't, and not so nice to the ones other guys drool after. Never kiss the ass(unless its on the way down on a successful adventure) of a broad that other guys chase around.

Be nice to the gals that other guys aren't.

I'm telling you......It works better than 1984 SexPanther.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:21 PM

There is definitely some truth to the idea that confidence is everything. I wasn't a real popular kid in school, but somehow in high school I scored a really hot girlfriend. No one understood how, most especially me. I married her when I was 18, we have a daughter, etc. And we got divorced when I was 21.

What happened to me in the meantime was that I figured out (basically by a stroke of luck) that I WAS actually capable of scoring hot chicks. I pretty much decided I could have any woman I wanted. I mean I really believed it. And guess what? I found out it was pretty much true. When you are convinced you can have any woman you want, they throw themselves at you.

Now-a-days I know better than to truly believe I can have any woman I want, but I still try to have that kind of confidence and swagger when I approach a woman. It's not about being cocky, but just about knowing that there is nothing about this woman that makes her out of your league. If you believe it, she will too. Sure, sometimes I get rejected. When that happens, I figure there's one of two reasons:

1. I didn't have enough time to work my magic. Given more time, she definitely would have wanted me.

2. I didn't really want her. Since I can have any woman I want, i must not have wanted her, or I'd have her.

Try it, it works.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by KCTitus

He keeps them in the original box..they're too valuable.

Well played.

**CosmicPal** · 04-27-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

That's what booze is for.

No, the booze is to make them look better.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 02:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

Queen. (not Drag queen...unless you're into Rupal)...

In short........Be nice to the women that other guys aren't, and not so nice to the ones other guys drool after. Never kiss the ass(unless its on the way down on a successful adventure) of a broad that other guys chase around.

Be nice to the gals that other guys aren't.

I'm telling you......It works better than 1984 SexPanther.

I do agree with this one, too. If you are nice to the gals other guys aren't, then one of two things happen:

1. The gals that the other guys want pick you instead. They can't figure out why you are hitting on HER instead of ME, so they take you as a challenge.

2. You go home with the girl that the other guys didn't want. Often times she's the best catch of the bunch anyway (i.e. the one most likely to do anal).

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iowanian

Queen. (not Drag queen...unless you're into Rupal)...

In short........Be nice to the women that other guys aren't, and not so nice to the ones other guys drool after. Never kiss the ass(unless its on the way down on a successful adventure) of a broad that other guys chase around.

Be nice to the gals that other guys aren't.

I'm telling you......It works better than 1984 SexPanther.

That's very interesting. I'll make a note.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 02:23 PM

gochiefs..........I have a friend who has probably poked 1000 women, and i'm not joking. Mostly very fine specimins. He didn't have a chic-tionary....he had a fargin 10gig palm pilot..with broads in every corner of 3 states.

The secret to his success, besides being a decent looking cat, is Baows....and lack of fear of failure. The same guy has probably been turned down by 50,000 women.

I've SEEN him stick his head out a window at a stop sign to a group of gals (when in HS) and say "Hey ladies...which one of you wants to EFF me".....and one jumped in.

Persistance is the key.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

No, the booze is to make them look better.

I never drink that much.

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 02:26 PM

Hey gochiefs, an old boss of mine had a saying:

"If you walk down the street asking every girl to f**k you'll get slapped a lot but you'll get laid a lot too."

It's all about having the balls to start it off and act like you're supposed to be there. Games will get you nothing but laid, a relationship based on games won't work. Hookers are for getting laid and cost a lot less time and energy than games. Hookers are also a sure thing.

04-27-2005, 11:03 AM
Rain Man Seize life. Be an ermine. Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $-452449 VARSITY	Signs of attraction Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428 Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you By Matt Christensen You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one. Clue #1: She’s all decked out What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman. Clue #2: She licks her lips What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.” Clue #3: She tosses her hair What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.” Clue #4: Her feet face you What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.” Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t. Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer. So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them. I'll start. 1. We keep adjusting our pants. 2. We take off our pants. 3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up. 4. We try to lick your lips.
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04-27-2005, 02:20 PM	#82
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1818454	Queen. (not Drag queen...unless you're into Rupal)... In short........Be nice to the women that other guys aren't, and not so nice to the ones other guys drool after. Never kiss the ass(unless its on the way down on a successful adventure) of a broad that other guys chase around. Be nice to the gals that other guys aren't. I'm telling you......It works better than 1984 SexPanther.
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04-27-2005, 02:21 PM	#83
jcroft Thread-Stopper Extrodinaire Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Seattle, WA Casino cash: $10004900	There is definitely some truth to the idea that confidence is everything. I wasn't a real popular kid in school, but somehow in high school I scored a really hot girlfriend. No one understood how, most especially me. I married her when I was 18, we have a daughter, etc. And we got divorced when I was 21. What happened to me in the meantime was that I figured out (basically by a stroke of luck) that I WAS actually capable of scoring hot chicks. I pretty much decided I could have any woman I wanted. I mean I really believed it. And guess what? I found out it was pretty much true. When you are convinced you can have any woman you want, they throw themselves at you. Now-a-days I know better than to truly believe I can have any woman I want, but I still try to have that kind of confidence and swagger when I approach a woman. It's not about being cocky, but just about knowing that there is nothing about this woman that makes her out of your league. If you believe it, she will too. Sure, sometimes I get rejected. When that happens, I figure there's one of two reasons: 1. I didn't have enough time to work my magic. Given more time, she definitely would have wanted me. 2. I didn't really want her. Since I can have any woman I want, i must not have wanted her, or I'd have her. Try it, it works. __________________ Jeff Croft jeffcroft.com
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04-27-2005, 02:23 PM	#88
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1818454	gochiefs..........I have a friend who has probably poked 1000 women, and i'm not joking. Mostly very fine specimins. He didn't have a chic-tionary....he had a fargin 10gig palm pilot..with broads in every corner of 3 states. The secret to his success, besides being a decent looking cat, is Baows....and lack of fear of failure. The same guy has probably been turned down by 50,000 women. I've SEEN him stick his head out a window at a stop sign to a group of gals (when in HS) and say "Hey ladies...which one of you wants to EFF me".....and one jumped in. Persistance is the key. Last edited by Iowanian; 04-27-2005 at 02:37 PM..
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04-27-2005, 02:26 PM	#90
Simplex3 MVP Join Date: Sep 2003 Casino cash: $10004900	Hey gochiefs, an old boss of mine had a saying: "If you walk down the street asking every girl to f**k you'll get slapped a lot but you'll get laid a lot too." It's all about having the balls to start it off and act like you're supposed to be there. Games will get you nothing but laid, a relationship based on games won't work. Hookers are for getting laid and cost a lot less time and energy than games. Hookers are also a sure thing.
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