Life Signs of attraction - Page 11

**Rain Man** · 04-27-2005, 11:03 AM

Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.

So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them.

I'll start.

1. We keep adjusting our pants.

2. We take off our pants.

3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up.

4. We try to lick your lips.

**Iowanian** · 04-27-2005, 03:33 PM

as much as you talk about Anal, its no wonder people think you're gay.

between that, and the Abercrombie Turtleneck...you just might be.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

If she's not interested in me because of those things, I didn't need her shallow ass anyway.

I understand the attitude, but my point is this: girls don't want to TALK about it. It's not bad that you're interested in it, but she's probably not. You've got to find things to talk about that she is interested in, or you're bore her.

ChiefsCountry · 04-27-2005, 03:35 PM

Oh another thing, if you have a girl that is really good friend have her help you shop for clothes. Girls pick out stuff they like for you, and you get to reap the rewards.

Brock · 04-27-2005, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Those things aren't part of my "core values" either. That's all the more reason she shouldn't have a problem with them. If she does....

Poor thing. If she'd only take the time to get to know the real Boba.

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiefsCountry

Be nice, compliant them on everything...

...Get some art work for the walls and fake plants, mirrors look cool. Trust me, chicks dig my place.

1. I always found the more I complimented them the more they wanted to introduce me to their fat, ugly friend.

2. Don't show them that mirror on the ceiling above your bed. Let them find it themselves.

3. Fake plants are a guy's best friend. If you can keep real ones alive that's even more impressive, but I never could.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Now I have to tiptoe around the american vernacular? I thought I was supposed to have some balls.

You've got to feel a girl out before you know if you can say stuff like that around her. It's not good first-date or first-chat material. Some girls will find it offensive or simply stupid. Others won't mind. Find out which she is before you start saying stuff like that. Most, I think, will feel that it makes you sound immature.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by jcroft

Okay, overall, you're not so bad, Mr. Gochiefs. The most important thing I can say is avoid that nerd talk. Some girls like nerdy guys. But that doesn't mean they want to talk about digital cameras and gmail. It means they think it's cute if you have glasses and are kind of skinny. If a girl really is a geek herself, you'll figure it out and you can talk about gmail to your little heart's content. Until then, just stop it.

Also, I'd probably avoid telling drunken stories right away -- although this girl didn't seem to mind it.

The other big thing here is that, while it wasn't really a BAD conversation, you didn't seem that interested in getting to know her. I think you ought to be asking more questions about her. Where's she from? What's her family like? What kind of music does she like (you kind of got into this a little bit)? What does she like to do for fun? Where does she work? Etc. Girls, in general, love to have a guy really talk to her and seem interested in getting to know more about her.

And don't forget to ask if she does anal.

Thanks for the pointers. I'll add that I haven't spoken to Ms. Girlused since this encounter.

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiefsCountry

Also a big thing is the apartment/pad/house this is the big key. If you are a college age guy, the beer posters and playboy pictures are fine for a dorm room but if you live off campus dont put that stuff up. Make your living area look like a man's place and not a kids. Get some art work for the walls and fake plants, mirrors look cool. Trust me, chicks dig my place.

I agree with this 100%. As a non-college guy (I'm 28) who regularly picks on on college girls (hey, I live in Manhattan), I can assure you that they love this kind of thing.

However -- get real plants, dude! Damn!

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

as much as you talk about Anal, its no wonder people think you're gay.

between that, and the Abercrombie Turtleneck...you just might be.

I have neither a single piece of Abercrombie gear nor a single turtleneck in my wardrobe.

ChiefsCountry · 04-27-2005, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by jcroft

However -- get real plants, dude! Damn!

If I had real ones they would be dead.

Hammock Parties · 04-27-2005, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jcroft

I agree with this 100%. As a non-college guy (I'm 28) who regularly picks on on college girls (hey, I live in Manhattan), I can assure you that they love this kind of thing.

You invite college girls back to your place?

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

1. I always found the more I complimented them the more they wanted to introduce me to their fat, ugly friend.

2. Don't show them that mirror on the ceiling above your bed. Let them find it themselves.

3. Fake plants are a guy's best friend. If you can keep real ones alive that's even more impressive, but I never could.

1. You can definitely overdo it. You gotta be complimentary, but you can't sound too eager or desperate. Just be nice. Nice is good.

2. Haha.

3. C'mon, man! Real plants! Fake plants are for fat white hetero slobs that hang out on football sites!

Oh wait...

Simplex3 · 04-27-2005, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Those things aren't part of my "core values" either. That's all the more reason she shouldn't have a problem with them. If she does....

My wife was an auditor for John Deere when we met. Had she spent our first date talking about accounting there wouldn't have been a second date. Even today as much as I love her I'd stand up and walk out of the room if she started discussing the benefits of accrual vs. cash based accounting.

Choose to talk to her about things that make you who you are. If she asks if you're into computers say "yes" and move on. If she wants to hear more she'll ask.

Chicks aren't your guy friends. If you want a guy to know something about you you'd better damn well tell him because he won't ask. Chicks will ask you whatever they actually want to know.

**Donger** · 04-27-2005, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Thanks for the pointers. I'll add that I haven't spoken to Ms. Girlused since this encounter. Who knows WTF happened but she was on once and I said hi, after which I have not heard from her since. So far no one else has dropped me a line at plentyoffish.com.

Here are her pics. She's quite a looker:

Did the conversation stop after you sent your pictures?

jcroft · 04-27-2005, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

You invite college girls back to your place?

Sure, why not? Why is that funny?

04-27-2005, 11:03 AM
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