Marriage, divorce, etc... - Page 5

Jenson71 · 10-17-2005, 08:24 PM

Hi. I've fallen in love in the past few months. And I've been thinking about marriage. I also read beer me's thread about his ex-wife and I got to thinking about that.

So here's a poll.

Spicy McHaggis · 10-18-2005, 11:10 AM

Marriage is a young man's folly and an old man's comfort.

**luv** · 10-18-2005, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Spicy McHaggis

Marriage is a young man's folly and an old man's comfort.

I would tend to agree with that. However, I have friends who married out of high school and are happy. Others, not so happy. My parents married about 2 years after high school (they were not high school sweethearts). It took them about 10 years before problems started creeping up. They divorced after 20 years. Works for some, and not for others. I guess marriage can be a gamble sometimes.

Calcountry · 10-18-2005, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

My mother actually got married at 16. That's really hard to believe. She then had her first child at 17. I still had never had a date at 17.

I saw your mother on that TV show "wife swap" last night.

angel · 10-18-2005, 11:23 AM

marriage, in my opinion, should not be taken lightly
I am 25 and in no hurry
if I ever get married, it will be forever; I will not divorce
therefore, in order for me to get married to someone, I have to know that it will last. I have to be sure that person will communicate with me and not give up when things are going rough- and they will, they always do
You can ponder marriage at 17 and start to figure out what you want in life, but don't even think of actually doing it until you and the other person are completely sure about it

"Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old."
-John Ciardi

**Skip Towne** · 10-18-2005, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

My mother actually got married at 16. That's really hard to believe. She then had her first child at 17. I still had never had a date at 17.

Heh. My ex's mother got married at 14. Seriously. And she's been married for 50 years.

ferrarispider95 · 10-18-2005, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Jenson71

Hi. I've fallen in love in the past few months. And I've been thinking about marriage. I also read beer me's thread about his ex-wife and I got to thinking about that.

So here's a poll.

Are you marrying dude or a chick. I cant tell from your post.

**luv** · 10-18-2005, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by angel

marriage, in my opinion, should not be taken lightly
I am 25 and in no hurry
if I ever get married, it will be forever; I will not divorce
therefore, in order for me to get married to someone, I have to know that it will last. I have to be sure that person will communicate with me and not give up when things are going rough- and they will, they always do
You can ponder marriage at 17 and start to figure out what you want in life, but don't even think of actually doing it until you and the other person are completely sure about it

"Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old."
-John Ciardi

I like the quote.

patteeu · 10-18-2005, 12:22 PM

Don't even think about marriage until you've finished college and have worked in the real world for a while. By then, you'll have had a chance to figure yourself out and have a better chance of marrying right the first time. Listen to the people giving you advice about working out sticky issues like religion, kids, and especially money in advance.

keg in kc · 10-18-2005, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ferrarispider95

WTF, it took you 7 years to figure it out, if you have suspicions you need to call CHEATERS they will take care of you man and then you can have a swweet confrontation with the dude laying the pipe to your wife.

I didn't have any suspicions for the first 5 years. Then again, I wasn't in a place where I was noticing much, or would have even cared if I did. When I started taking care of myself, I started to see more.

And I'm not a "confront the dude" kind of guy. I don't have any problem with any guy that fucked my ex. They weren't the ones married to me. She's the only one who violated my trust. After I knew that, we were pretty much done. That's the only thing (I can think of) that I'll neither forgive nor forget. There's no second chance with cheating.

keg in kc · 10-18-2005, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by angel

marriage, in my opinion, should not be taken lightly
I am 25 and in no hurry
if I ever get married, it will be forever; I will not divorce
therefore, in order for me to get married to someone, I have to know that it will last. I have to be sure that person will communicate with me and not give up when things are going rough- and they will, they always do
You can ponder marriage at 17 and start to figure out what you want in life, but don't even think of actually doing it until you and the other person are completely sure about it

"Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old."
-John Ciardi

Seems about right.

Too many women, too many people I should say, around your age (you know you're old when you say something like that), are desperate for marriage. Probably because society tries to tell you there's something wrong with being single, when the real problem is rushing into something that's wrong for either/both of you because you're afraid to be alone.

htismaqe · 10-18-2005, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by luv2rite

I have dated less than three people seriously. However, I am ten years out of high school, I have a real job that pays for real bills, and I live on my own. I don't think it's fair to say I have attachment issues based upon one criteria.

You're in your laste 20's, you're self-sufficient, you have no attachment issues, and you've only dated THREE people?

What, are you ugly?

htismaqe · 10-18-2005, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

I didn't have any suspicions for the first 5 years. Then again, I wasn't in a place where I was noticing much, or would have even cared if I did. When I started taking care of myself, I started to see more.

And I'm not a "confront the dude" kind of guy. I don't have any problem with any guy that fucked my ex. They weren't the ones married to me. She's the only one who violated my trust. After I knew that, we were pretty much done. That's the only thing (I can think of) that I'll neither forgive nor forget. There's no second chance with cheating.

When I first met my ex's boyfriend, he flinched every time I moved, like he thought I would hit him.

I finally let him toke off my 3-footer to calm his nerves.

He wasn't a bad guy, she was the one that was ****ed up.

keg in kc · 10-18-2005, 01:09 PM

Not everybody's born as hot as you, Parker. Genetics is just against some of us.

htismaqe · 10-18-2005, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Not everybody's born as hot as you, Parker. Genetics is just against some of us.

Hot? Hardly. Shakes and Phil can vouch for that.

A little self-confidence goes a long ways when getting dates.

Of course, a fat stash doesn't hurt either.

**Lzen** · 10-18-2005, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Married. Divorced. Never in love.

Nothing wrong with marriage, but I think too many people do it too young, without knowing what they're really getting into.

Yes. That and a lot of people don't take marriage seriously - forget those vows, etc.

View Poll Results: Which one?
I've been married once, still to the same person.	55	44.35%
I'm divorced and single.	17	13.71%
I'm divorced and have remarried.	22	17.74%
I have never married.	24	19.35%
I'm a different option (please explain)	6	4.84%
Voters: 124. You may not vote on this poll

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