Marriage, divorce, etc... - Page 9

Jenson71 · 10-17-2005, 08:24 PM

Hi. I've fallen in love in the past few months. And I've been thinking about marriage. I also read beer me's thread about his ex-wife and I got to thinking about that.

So here's a poll.

**luv** · 10-19-2005, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by htismaqe

You're in your laste 20's, you're self-sufficient, you have no attachment issues, and you've only dated THREE people?

What, are you ugly?

I'm too busy being seen as someone's "good friend to have" or "little sister type". I've never dated much. Shy and insecure. I would say overweight too, but I've seen women bigger than me with guys. I dunno. My friends say I'm too picky.

keg in kc · 10-19-2005, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Jenson71

Most important to know, is I am not thinking directly about sexual thoughts with her. I want to, and so does she, but we both agree we're just not gonna do it. I have never been too much of a womanizer, and have only liked (liked) one other girl besides her. This one though, I was determined to do something about. I wouldn't have lived with myself if I hadn't.

If that makes me less of a man to some of you, that's fine, it won't hurt my feelings.

If what makes you less of a man? Not having sex? There's nothing wrong with that, if that's what the two of you agree on.

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I am 17, I am a senior in high school, and I do think I'm better than the average male in this country. I'm just being honest.

Nothing wrong with that, either, although I think I tend to think more along the lines of "as good as" rather than "better than". I think everybody has some value in some way or another, maybe different strengths or weaknesses, which doesn't make one individual any better or worse than any other. Just different. When you're feeling particularly cocky, remember that there are people out there who can do things, amazing things, that you simply can't. And on a bad day, remember you've got your own particular individual strengths, whatever they may be.

The trick is being even-keeled. Never too high, never too low. Keep a balance. Remember your strengths, recognize your weaknesses, and don't dwell too much on either.

keg in kc · 10-19-2005, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by luv2rite

I'm too busy being seen as someone's "good friend to have" or "little sister type". I've never dated much. Shy and insecure. I would say overweight too, but I've seen women bigger than me with guys. I dunno. My friends say I'm too picky.

Being picky is fine. Just make sure you let people make their own judgements about you, too. That's one I have a problem with, assuming one way or the other instead of giving people a chance to make up their own mind about me. It's an easy way to preempt rejection.

HolmeZz · 10-19-2005, 12:26 AM

I'm lonely.

WilliamTheIrish · 10-19-2005, 12:26 AM

Jensen;

You're a bonehead.

Shut up and finish your homework.

**luv** · 10-19-2005, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Being picky is fine. Just make sure you let people make their own judgements about you, too. That's one I have a problem with, assuming one way or the other instead of giving people a chance to make up their own mind about me. It's an easy way to preempt rejection.

I always seem to be interested in a guy until he shows interest back. Then I think there must be something wrong with him if he's settling for me. The times when I have decided not to think that, I end up coming on too strong (I like to spoil people I like with attention and such), or I was completely off base about them being interested to begin with. Vicious cycle.

keg in kc · 10-19-2005, 12:45 AM

Stop thinking so much.

**luv** · 10-19-2005, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Stop thinking so much.

I hear that a lot, too.

**Iowanian** · 10-19-2005, 09:37 PM

You need to watch Full Metal Jacket...Rub one out, and fart in the car with your friends.

At 17, you're not even close to being ready for marraige.

Listen closely....At your age, she's not going to be ready to decide which is the best dress for Valentine's dance.

This relationship is probably fun...you're both learning "how" to date.

A decade from now, you'll be laughing with a friend about how "heartbroken" you were 6 months from now, when she goes off to college and starts Porking some DIII Football Star or something.

Enjoy it while it lasts....go to college, you talked about the military, and prepare yourself for success in a long life.

Women will come and go(coming more if you do it right).....and in my experience, you'll KNOW when the right one comes along.

Do you Buy the first pair of shoes you try on without trying another? Buy a car without driving some other models?

**Iowanian** · 10-19-2005, 10:24 PM

Some women...

**ChiTown** · 10-19-2005, 10:26 PM

Don't listen to these idiots. Get married, drop out of school, start a family immediately and get a downpayment as soon as possible on a double-wide. Best o' luck to ya.

**luv** · 10-19-2005, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ENDelt260

Yeah.... but, those things are cheaper than women.

SHHHHHH!!!! We don't want men to know that! Who let you in on that little secret?

View Poll Results: Which one?
I've been married once, still to the same person.	55	44.35%
I'm divorced and single.	17	13.71%
I'm divorced and have remarried.	22	17.74%
I have never married.	24	19.35%
I'm a different option (please explain)	6	4.84%
Voters: 124. You may not vote on this poll

10-17-2005, 08:24 PM
Jenson71 fides quaerens intellectum Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: United States Casino cash: $8330900	Marriage, divorce, etc... Hi. I've fallen in love in the past few months. And I've been thinking about marriage. I also read beer me's thread about his ex-wife and I got to thinking about that. So here's a poll.
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HolmeZz i guess its bittersweet poetry Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: NeW HaVeN, CT Casino cash: $10004900	I'm lonely.
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10-19-2005, 09:37 PM	#129
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1758454	You need to watch Full Metal Jacket...Rub one out, and fart in the car with your friends. At 17, you're not even close to being ready for marraige. Listen closely....At your age, she's not going to be ready to decide which is the best dress for Valentine's dance. This relationship is probably fun...you're both learning "how" to date. A decade from now, you'll be laughing with a friend about how "heartbroken" you were 6 months from now, when she goes off to college and starts Porking some DIII Football Star or something. Enjoy it while it lasts....go to college, you talked about the military, and prepare yourself for success in a long life. Women will come and go(coming more if you do it right).....and in my experience, you'll KNOW when the right one comes along. Do you Buy the first pair of shoes you try on without trying another? Buy a car without driving some other models?
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10-19-2005, 10:24 PM	#130
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1758454	Some women...
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ChiTown Stroking to the SB Champs! Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Flatlands of Kansas Casino cash: $-411038	Don't listen to these idiots. Get married, drop out of school, start a family immediately and get a downpayment as soon as possible on a double-wide. Best o' luck to ya. __________________
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