prayer request: for my children

[38yrsfan]

I see this sort of thing daily as I am IT support for 5 counties of social workers - I am assuming that is what DSS does. You might want to contact them on a "voluntary services" basis so that you have control of the process and explain your concerns about FUTURE development and risk for your children when exposed to the woman during those times of visitation. If the social workers can completely see it your way then they can (through the courts) prohibit here visiting the kids based on what is best for the child. It can be a very difficult process when drugs are involved as judges are reluctant to terminate parental rights, grant injunctions, etc. when it is possible an addict can be reformed.

Keep your attorney paid and up-to-date (I know, it seems like wasted money) but their support and connections can be invaluable.

The state department for child protection is required by law (and within specified time parameters) to investigate ALL complaints, notices and even annonymous referrals. It is a common tactic that a good social worker can see through right away. If they aren't as helpful as you feel they should be, you might want to consider a private sector social worker for evaluations, recommendations and added clout to your case.

Consider discrete surveillance and recording devices for visitations and phone calls (many states record sensitive interviews and all supervised family visits now) so it isn't an unusual practice.

Keep your nose clean in all areas of your life. Sometimes the most innocuous thing can be very damaging depending upon how it is portrayed.

Do NOT consider flight unless it is out of the country and to a place that doesn't extradite to the US. All states, with the possible exception of Texas - and they have been forced to reluctantly comply as well, share and assist tracking you down in this type of situation.

Good luck and try to stay calm when dealing with the bureaucracy.