I'm cohabitating... would appreciate any advice.

[Silock]

Originally Posted by Adept Havelock

IMO, that piece of paper has absolutely no intrinsic value whatsoever, nor does it add much. All it does is place some legal obstacles if you decide to break up. If you need those as incentive to stay together in the rough times...as I said, each to their own.

I agree with that.

The fact that cohabitating relationships tend to fail is because of the different nature of the relationship. Each person feels more independent and they develop communication strategies based around that. It tends to be more of a "Is this person good enough for me?" approach than it is a "Am I good enough for this person, or what can I do to be a better partner for them?"

I would seriously advise working on communication. Cohabitating couples don't communicate very well because they're used to the independence aspect of the relationship.

I have a whole Powerpoint presentation complete with research studies and notes if you're REALLY interested in how to give your cohabitating relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

[Adept Havelock]

Originally Posted by Silock

I have a whole Powerpoint presentation complete with research studies and notes if you're REALLY interested in how to give your cohabitating relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

I appreciate the offer, but we after this many years through good times and bad, I think we're OK.

Agreed, communication is absolutely a key.

[Silock]

Originally Posted by Adept Havelock

I appreciate the offer, but we after this many years through good times and bad, I think we're OK.

Agreed, communication is absolutely a key.

Sorry, that was for Direckshun

[Adept Havelock]

Originally Posted by Silock

Sorry, that was for Direckshun

No apologies necessary. Either way, it's kind of you to offer it. It's not an easy road, but no relationship worth having ever is.