Chiefs OT-Broken Heart?! - Page 4

jaa1025 · 06:48 PM

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 06:11 PM

PICS!

**Mr. Flopnuts** · 05-26-2008, 06:12 PM

Where's the pics? Let's see what this broad looks like. We'll give you a better idea of how to handle it.

**Smed1065** · 05-26-2008, 06:15 PM

He has visited the planet before, so there will be no pics until he is convinced it is over.

You should give her a link so she can set up an account and work this out as well.

Marco Polo · 05-26-2008, 06:29 PM

I feel for you man. I went through one about two and a half years ago. The best thing to do is to completely quit all forms of communication. The sooner you stop talking to her the better. I made the mistake of keeping in contact with my ex and looking back, I regret it. Time really heals all wounds. Hook up with a woman or two (safely, of course) to get your confidence back and just move on with life. Maintain dignity.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Marco Polo

I feel for you man. I went through one about two and a half years ago. The best thing to do is to completely quit all forms of communication. The sooner you stop talking to her the better. I made the mistake of keeping in contact with my ex and looking back, I regret it. Time really heals all wounds. Hook up with a woman or two (safely, of course) to get your confidence back and just move on with life. Maintain dignity.

Yeah...this is what I'm going to do. I've never felt like this before...she really had a hold of me like no one. I've got a few of her things here...I'm going to box them up and leave them at her doorstep and forget her. If she calls...it will be on my terms.

The good news is...I've hit the gym like an animal this past week and can concentrate on that and making more $$ at work.

I normally handle my emotions very well...just lost control a bit and didn't know how to handle it. Pretty much broke every Man rule there is.

**Bwana** · 05-26-2008, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

Yeah...I gave her the power already when I texted her and emailed her a few times...I need to get it back. She has control now...****!

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 06:41 PM

Nut up and post the pics. Every second you abstain from posting them proves she still has your balls.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:42 PM

The funny thing is...every sport teams she has I hate.

KU fan (im KState)
Colts fan (Chiefs...loathe Peyton Manning)
Boston Redsox (actually like them...but I think I caused the Royals to get swept...I'm a Royals fan)

Sully · 05-26-2008, 06:42 PM

So...
You like her, you want her back, and it's tearing you up. Add to that she says she still loves you...

... so you are going to walk away and forget her.
Sounds reasonable.

**Rausch** · 05-26-2008, 06:43 PM

Maintain your class.

Fight any revenge urges you might have, and for ****'s sake, don't post pics.

There is a dignity in sucking it up and moving on instead of being shallow and vindictive...

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by GOATSE

Nut up and post the pics. Every second you abstain from posting them proves she still has your balls.

Can't Bro...not an asshole.

She's 5'8
Long legs...big boobs. Pierced nipples. Long dark brown hair that's naturally curly and looks hot as hell when she leaves it that way but she chooses to straighten it daily...which looks good as well. She's got very pretty green eyes...her left one has a spot of brown. Very pretty face...kind of a small nose thats pushed up at the end...gorgeous ear to ear smile. Light complexion. Just a very beautiful woman.

PastorMikH · 05-26-2008, 06:48 PM

I can't believe no one has suggested asking her best friend out yet.

Seriously, there's 6+ billion people in this world, half of them are women. Move on. Now that she sees how you have acted she will never respect you as a man again. She may call you back to use you from time to time, but she's done with you. Move on, find a new relationship. If she comes crawling back, don't let her come back easy.

Hammock Parties · 05-26-2008, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaa1025

Can't Bro...not an asshole.

She's 5'8
Long legs...big boobs. Pierced nipples. Long dark brown hair that's naturally curly and looks hot as hell when she leaves it that way but she chooses to straighten it daily...which looks good as well. She's got very pretty green eyes...her left one has a spot of brown. Very pretty face...kind of a small nose thats pushed up at the end...gorgeous ear to ear smile. Light complexion. Just a very beautiful woman.

SHOW US GODDAMMIT

Braincase · 05-26-2008, 07:15 PM

1. DON'T call her.
2. BEHAVE as if it's no big thing. She's just another chick.
3. IF she has hot friends that think of you as being a good guy, don't pursue conversation, but don't shy away from it either. Always have a couple of tickets for the next good concert, and be sure to mention as part of the conversation in a casual way that the boddy that was coming in from out of town to go to the show can't. Maybe she's like to go if she doesn't have anything else goin' on.
4. DON'T go hang out in bars unless that's something you usually do.
5. DON'T get drunk off you ass and start moaning and complaining about how she broke your heart. It's not a big thing, you had a few kicks, but it's time to move on.
6. BE cool. Yeah, it sucks and it hurts. Fake it til you make it.

KCrockaholic · 05-26-2008, 07:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaa1025

Yeah...this is what I'm going to do. I've never felt like this before...she really had a hold of me like no one. I've got a few of her things here...I'm going to box them up and leave them at her doorstep and forget her. If she calls...it will be on my terms.

The good news is...I've hit the gym like an animal this past week and can concentrate on that and making more $$ at work.

I normally handle my emotions very well...just lost control a bit and didn't know how to handle it. Pretty much broke every Man rule there is.

well atleast your looking at the bright side of things man...i know how you feel, im sure you feel empty, and your unsure of what to do with yourself to get your brain back under control. the biggest thing you can do is 1. let time heal it. 2. fill that empty space with something fun and motivational...3. try not to think about her too much, or not at all if possible

05-26-2008, 05:17 PM
jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	OT-Broken Heart?! EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy! Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues. ************************************************************************************************** ******************************* How the F* do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. Summery of the happenings. Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy. About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead. So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week. Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left. Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back. Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch. After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out. Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life. Last edited by jaa1025; 09-06-2012 at 06:48 PM..
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Smed1065 Supporter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Returning From Hell Casino cash: $4903673	He has visited the planet before, so there will be no pics until he is convinced it is over. You should give her a link so she can set up an account and work this out as well.
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05-26-2008, 06:29 PM	#49
Marco Polo Veteran Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: 41°59.4′N 87°39.6'W Casino cash: $3958908	I feel for you man. I went through one about two and a half years ago. The best thing to do is to completely quit all forms of communication. The sooner you stop talking to her the better. I made the mistake of keeping in contact with my ex and looking back, I regret it. Time really heals all wounds. Hook up with a woman or two (safely, of course) to get your confidence back and just move on with life. Maintain dignity.
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05-26-2008, 06:41 PM	#52
Hammock Parties I'll be back. Join Date: Nov 2002 Casino cash: $950478	Nut up and post the pics. Every second you abstain from posting them proves she still has your balls. __________________ Chiefs game films
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jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	The funny thing is...every sport teams she has I hate. KU fan (im KState) Colts fan (Chiefs...loathe Peyton Manning) Boston Redsox (actually like them...but I think I caused the Royals to get swept...I'm a Royals fan)
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Sully It Goes On Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Lees Summit Casino cash: $10026331	So... You like her, you want her back, and it's tearing you up. Add to that she says she still loves you... ... so you are going to walk away and forget her. Sounds reasonable. __________________ "And I don't wish that girl any bad luck," he said, "but I hope she gets hit with a car." - Tommy Lasorda
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05-26-2008, 06:48 PM	#57
PastorMikH Will KC ever be better? Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Land of Red Dirt & Necks Casino cash: $9905087	I can't believe no one has suggested asking her best friend out yet. Seriously, there's 6+ billion people in this world, half of them are women. Move on. Now that she sees how you have acted she will never respect you as a man again. She may call you back to use you from time to time, but she's done with you. Move on, find a new relationship. If she comes crawling back, don't let her come back easy. __________________
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05-26-2008, 07:15 PM	#59
Braincase Banned Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Pond> Me <Barn Casino cash: $11298284	1. DON'T call her. 2. BEHAVE as if it's no big thing. She's just another chick. 3. IF she has hot friends that think of you as being a good guy, don't pursue conversation, but don't shy away from it either. Always have a couple of tickets for the next good concert, and be sure to mention as part of the conversation in a casual way that the boddy that was coming in from out of town to go to the show can't. Maybe she's like to go if she doesn't have anything else goin' on. 4. DON'T go hang out in bars unless that's something you usually do. 5. DON'T get drunk off you ass and start moaning and complaining about how she broke your heart. It's not a big thing, you had a few kicks, but it's time to move on. 6. BE cool. Yeah, it sucks and it hurts. Fake it til you make it. __________________ BrainCase
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