Chiefs OT-Broken Heart?! - Page 7

jaa1025 · 06:48 PM

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

**2112** · 05-26-2008, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by milkman

Whining?

Crying

KCUnited · 05-26-2008, 08:34 PM

Has her not returning your calls, emails, and texts made you think about her more? If you answered yes, then you need to stop all attempts at contact. Some call it games and BS, but its obviously working for her.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Dimension2112

You broke it off and you're whining like this?

My definition of whining and yours are different.

05-26-2008, 08:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaa1025

No I broke it off with her Tuesday.

I made mistakes with my wife twice while we were dating. It took a long time for her to recover from that pain.

Stop calling, stopping by, texting, and emailing.

Write her a HANDWRITTEN letter on some masculine stationary. The letter should explain why it was a mistake and why you want to continue your relationship. Deliver it where she will find it along with a single simple flower and then leave it at that. If she calls you're good. If she ignores that one, move on.

**2112** · 05-26-2008, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

My definition of whining and yours are different.

Dude, I don't think I'm the only one in this thread that thought you were the one that got dumped. not vice versa. now how do you think I came to that conclusion?

**Skip Towne** · 05-26-2008, 08:37 PM

You need to do her in the butt. I'm surprised Phobia didn't mention this.

KCUnited · 05-26-2008, 08:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phobia

I made mistakes with my wife twice while we were dating. It took a long time for her to recover from that pain.

Stop calling, stopping by, texting, and emailing.

Write her a HANDWRITTEN letter on some masculine stationary. The letter should explain why it was a mistake and why you want to continue your relationship. Deliver it where she will find it along with a single simple flower and then leave it at that. If she calls you're good. If she ignores that one, move on.

I respectfully disagree about the letter. I know a dude that tried that and he still gets his balls broke about it by the people that have gotten their hands on it over the years. Never leave any evidence of past feelings.

**Skip Towne** · 05-26-2008, 08:44 PM

I'll bet she found herself a new dude with a schlong thiiiiis long.

05-26-2008, 08:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KCUnited

I respectfully disagree about the letter. I know a dude that tried that and he still gets his balls broke about it by the people that have gotten their hands on it over the years. Never leave any evidence of past feelings.

I think that's a poor reason, though. Sounds like the woman means more to him than a couple ball bustings.

There's no real advice without knowing the gal and the exact situation though. Women would be the best person to ask.

ClevelandBronco · 05-26-2008, 08:51 PM

I recommend that you look up and review "The D.enise Show."

**Smed1065** · 05-26-2008, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Sully

So...
You like her, you want her back, and it's tearing you up. Add to that she says she still loves you...

... so you are going to walk away and forget her.
Sounds reasonable.

Best option thus far?

U whipped?

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phobia

I think that's a poor reason, though. Sounds like the woman means more to him than a couple ball bustings.

There's no real advice without knowing the gal and the exact situation though. Women would be the best person to ask.

Embarrassment would be worth it if that's what it took so thats the last thing I'm worried about. Its more of, would it bother her if I wrote a letter or should I give her space...try to move on and hope that she will call knowing already how I feel.

jaa1025 · 05-26-2008, 09:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Smed1065

Best option thus far?

U whipped?

Got to get ready for work...sit in front of a computer all night, so I'll continue to look at peoples advice and keep this post updated until its over or we are together again.

**Mr. Flopnuts** · 05-26-2008, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by GOATSE

Thread promises 100 replies at minimum.

And it has passed from the lips of the man with the silly hat.

beach tribe · 05-26-2008, 09:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phobia

I made mistakes with my wife twice while we were dating. It took a long time for her to recover from that pain.

Stop calling, stopping by, texting, and emailing.

Write her a HANDWRITTEN letter on some masculine stationary. The letter should explain why it was a mistake and why you want to continue your relationship. Deliver it where she will find it along with a single simple flower and then leave it at that. If she calls you're good. If she ignores that one, move on.

Follow this post. Nothing more need be said.

05-26-2008, 05:17 PM
jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	OT-Broken Heart?! EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy! Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues. ************************************************************************************************** ******************************* How the F* do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. Summery of the happenings. Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy. About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead. So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week. Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left. Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back. Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch. After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out. Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life. Last edited by jaa1025; 09-06-2012 at 06:48 PM..
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05-26-2008, 08:51 PM	#100
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