Life Personal advice sought, v. II.

eazyb81 · 05-04-2009, 12:12 PM

Damn dude, shit or get off the pot already.

As everyone has already said in this thread and the previous one, you should probably stay out of it unless you are prepared for the potential consequences that could come out of it. It's unlikely the girl is going to thank you, and there's a good chance she already knows or has an idea.

Not sure if I mentioned it in the previous thread, but I encountered a similar situation a couple years ago. I saw the boyfriend of my fiancee's best friend getting down with a girl at a party during alumni week at our college (grinding, kissing, etc). We were partying at my old fraternity house, and he "myseriously" disappeared for a few hours and this girl was also nowhere to be found. About 3 AM he strolled back in the house acting like nothing happened. He's one of those guys that lies about everything anyways so I didn't even bother trying to question him, just gave him kind of an "i know" look.

Anyways, my fiancee and the dude's GF were out partying with the girls that night and they came by the house to pick us both up at around 4 AM. That night I told my fiancee about what happened, and after a long discussion she decided that she should tell her friend. Well, the girl did not take it well at all, and basically told my fiancee to mind her own business. My girl backed off, and today her friend and the loser BF are married and seem to be doing okay.

The point is that you need to understand that different people will take this type of news in different ways, and some will react negatively if they are insecure and lack self esteem. Give careful consideration to whether giving your friend this info is worth potentially losing a friendship.

05-04-2009, 12:12 PM	#13
eazyb81 The Illuminati Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: the road less traveled Casino cash: $9984900	Damn dude, shit or get off the pot already. As everyone has already said in this thread and the previous one, you should probably stay out of it unless you are prepared for the potential consequences that could come out of it. It's unlikely the girl is going to thank you, and there's a good chance she already knows or has an idea. Not sure if I mentioned it in the previous thread, but I encountered a similar situation a couple years ago. I saw the boyfriend of my fiancee's best friend getting down with a girl at a party during alumni week at our college (grinding, kissing, etc). We were partying at my old fraternity house, and he "myseriously" disappeared for a few hours and this girl was also nowhere to be found. About 3 AM he strolled back in the house acting like nothing happened. He's one of those guys that lies about everything anyways so I didn't even bother trying to question him, just gave him kind of an "i know" look. Anyways, my fiancee and the dude's GF were out partying with the girls that night and they came by the house to pick us both up at around 4 AM. That night I told my fiancee about what happened, and after a long discussion she decided that she should tell her friend. Well, the girl did not take it well at all, and basically told my fiancee to mind her own business. My girl backed off, and today her friend and the loser BF are married and seem to be doing okay. The point is that you need to understand that different people will take this type of news in different ways, and some will react negatively if they are insecure and lack self esteem. Give careful consideration to whether giving your friend this info is worth potentially losing a friendship.
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