Life Some advice, opinions, and cp obligatory smart ass remarks - Page 2

**ShortRoundChief** · 01-14-2010, 01:48 AM

Ok, so here's the deal. Everyone here knows I'm going through a divorce, have custody of my son, and am a District manager of a certain pizza place. Problem is the hours vs. my son. Have a really strong feeling that the boss is gonna try to push a choice on me tomorrow. If that's the case, my inclination is telling him to jerk off a nazi whilest jumpin off the golden gate bridge. Advice please.

DJ's left nut · 01-14-2010, 09:10 AM

I'm going to go with the pragmatic route here.

Everyone always says "choose family over your job" as though the two aren't very much intertwined.

If you have no job propsects lined up, you suck it up until you do for a variety of reasons. A) Unemployment could very well lose you custody. B) Being jobless is an incredible stressor. While you'd like to think it won't effect you, it certainly will. At that point, just how happy could your time at home with your kid be? And nut-cutting time won't be too far off unless you've saved well.

Tiger may be right that your kid doesn't really care, but you will. The pride of being a provider cannot be overstated and the loss of that status will hurt you more than you realize, IMO. You'll see the things you can't do for your son any longer and it will eat at you. Maybe resentment creeps in, maybe it doesn't; but stress will and your life at home will not be what it once was.

If you want to prep some resume's and start job hunting, well that makes all the sense in the world. But to tell your boss to shove it without having any idea when/where the next job will come from ranges from shortsighted to blatantly irresponsible. Take the extra hours for now and start looking for a new gig. Worst case scenario is another few months with extra hours but that's a hell of a lot better than unemployment and cold-calling in this job environment.

Simply Red · 01-14-2010, 09:18 AM

you need to do what the **** ever it is, to become a franchisee! PERIOD

fat coin, as you know.

**Skip Towne** · 01-14-2010, 09:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mecca

Can I have some pizza?

I don't know. Can you?

**The Franchise** · 01-14-2010, 09:55 AM

Is it going to be that your boss wants to raise your hours? Or make you choose between the job and your son (i.e. fired/quit)?

If it's the first one....find someone who can babysit. If it's the second....find another job.

Earthling · 01-14-2010, 10:03 AM

Just me but, I would have a sit-down with the boss and address your concerns with him, or her. They should be able to present an option that works for you and them as well. That way you will know PDQ if you need to start looking for a different employer. In any event, the best of luck.

Buddy Rich · 01-14-2010, 10:11 AM

tell your boss that not only are you picking your job over your kid but you've invented a new pizza that he needs to try now. sprinkle the anti-freeze, serve, wait an hour or two then take your kid to the movies.

01-14-2010, 01:48 AM
ShortRoundChief Embrace the love Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Joplin Casino cash: $4197192	Some advice, opinions, and cp obligatory smart ass remarks Ok, so here's the deal. Everyone here knows I'm going through a divorce, have custody of my son, and am a District manager of a certain pizza place. Problem is the hours vs. my son. Have a really strong feeling that the boss is gonna try to push a choice on me tomorrow. If that's the case, my inclination is telling him to jerk off a nazi whilest jumpin off the golden gate bridge. Advice please.
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01-14-2010, 09:10 AM	#16
DJ's left nut Sauntering Vaguely Downwards Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Columbia, Mo Casino cash: $-640901	I'm going to go with the pragmatic route here. Everyone always says "choose family over your job" as though the two aren't very much intertwined. If you have no job propsects lined up, you suck it up until you do for a variety of reasons. A) Unemployment could very well lose you custody. B) Being jobless is an incredible stressor. While you'd like to think it won't effect you, it certainly will. At that point, just how happy could your time at home with your kid be? And nut-cutting time won't be too far off unless you've saved well. Tiger may be right that your kid doesn't really care, but you will. The pride of being a provider cannot be overstated and the loss of that status will hurt you more than you realize, IMO. You'll see the things you can't do for your son any longer and it will eat at you. Maybe resentment creeps in, maybe it doesn't; but stress will and your life at home will not be what it once was. If you want to prep some resume's and start job hunting, well that makes all the sense in the world. But to tell your boss to shove it without having any idea when/where the next job will come from ranges from shortsighted to blatantly irresponsible. Take the extra hours for now and start looking for a new gig. Worst case scenario is another few months with extra hours but that's a hell of a lot better than unemployment and cold-calling in this job environment. __________________ "If there's a god, he's laughing at us.....and our football team..." "When you look at something through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags."
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01-14-2010, 09:18 AM	#17
Simply Red You Sweetie! Join Date: Sep 2005 Casino cash: $2021206219 VARSITY	you need to do what the **** ever it is, to become a franchisee! PERIOD fat coin, as you know.
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01-14-2010, 09:55 AM	#19
The Franchise Most Valuable Villain Join Date: Dec 2006 Casino cash: $2085047	Is it going to be that your boss wants to raise your hours? Or make you choose between the job and your son (i.e. fired/quit)? If it's the first one....find someone who can babysit. If it's the second....find another job.
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01-14-2010, 10:03 AM	#20
Earthling MVP Join Date: Apr 2001 Casino cash: $10008447	Just me but, I would have a sit-down with the boss and address your concerns with him, or her. They should be able to present an option that works for you and them as well. That way you will know PDQ if you need to start looking for a different employer. In any event, the best of luck.
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01-14-2010, 10:11 AM	#21
Buddy Rich Exasperated Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Africa Casino cash: $2334965	tell your boss that not only are you picking your job over your kid but you've invented a new pizza that he needs to try now. sprinkle the anti-freeze, serve, wait an hour or two then take your kid to the movies.
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