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MTG#10 · 03-21-2010, 08:05 AM

I dont know why Im posting this thread, just need to vent. I know I shouldnt be feeling this way, its been almost a year since my wife left but I feel like I just missed the birth of my own child. I knew it was going to happen soon and I thought I was mentally prepared but when her dad called me and told me this morning I quickly realized I wasn't. I cant believe I still love her after everything she's done to me and put me through both emotionally and financially. I would take her back and help her raise her baby in a heartbeat. Thats how much I love her. ****ing pathetic I know. When's this shit going to end? Its been 10 months and it still hurts just as much as the day I found out. Its so hard to keep face in front of my kids, they are so excited to have a new baby sister and I have to pretend Im happy and excited for them but its killing me. I know I have to be strong for my kids and I will but when they are gone I dont know what to do.

keg in kc · 03-23-2010, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DaFace

To be fair, these threads included a lot of good advice back when things went down about a year ago. I think that everyone's sympathy is waning now that the advice is not being taken and things continue to spiral downward.

Yeah, a year later it's a little harder to sympathize when it's still the same story. Sort of puts the "pathetic" in "sympathetic". We can all tell him the same stuff we did in 2009, but we can't make him listen or act on any of it

Pants · 03-23-2010, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by keg in kc

Yeah, a year later it's a little harder to sympathize when it's still the same story. Sort of puts the "pathetic" in "sympathetic". We can all tell him the same stuff we did in 2009, but we can't make him listen or act on any of it

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

Deberg_1990 · 03-23-2010, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Metrolike

I honestly feel bad for the guy.

Why? I did at first....but not anymore.

Hes creating his own misery.

keg in kc · 03-23-2010, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Metrolike

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

I do sympathize, all I'm saying is that I don't know how worthwhile dispensing advice can possibly be a year later. I'm not sure what anybody can say now that wasn't said then. So I can understand why folks are less patient now.

I think some of the first advice anybody gave him was to seek professional help. And that's clearly what he needs to do. The planet isn't going to solve his problems for him. Nobody's going to solve his problems for him. He's got to do that himself, and it's going to take stronger mojo than we have.

**dirk digler** · 03-23-2010, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Metrolike

Dispensing advice is very easy when you're not in that person's shoes (I realize your previous marriage experience, I'm just talking generalities). This dude was never in position to follow it, though. I honestly feel bad for the guy.

That is a load of BS. I was almost in exactly his same shoes. I told him what he needed to do and for awhile he was doing fine but he regressed when he got dumped. He should have seeked counseling, got a divorce, and stop talking to her unless it was about their kids.

Pants · 03-23-2010, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Deberg_1990

Why? I did at first....but not anymore.

Hes creating his own misery.

He knows as much and he can't help it, that's why. The only advice that was ever going to help him was to seek some serious therapy.

KCChiefsMan · 03-23-2010, 02:23 PM

Sorry, but one of my best friends sounds exactly like you. When you let them walk all over you and you just do every single thing that they tell you to do. I'm not going to go into it, but it's not good. I spent countless hours with my friend talking about this when he needed to vent and nothing ever got through to him. He's just pathetic when it comes to women and he'll never change and he's always going to cry about it. He's always going to drop everything on a dime for a girl and do whatever they say and when they say to do it. Women, no matter how nice they seem, if you let them walk over you they will and it will be a downward spiral to hell for you.

Otter · 03-23-2010, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by DaFace

To be fair, these threads included a lot of good advice back when things went down about a year ago. I think that everyone's sympathy is waning now that the advice is not being taken and things continue to spiral downward.

Fair enough. Just keep in mind what you write on this board is out there for everyone to see and is archived by Google for your grandkids to see if they manage to trace it back.

Start living or start dying or better yet, shut the **** up on this medium until you figure it out.

What you're writing here MTG is something you shouldn't be making everyone's business.

T-post Tom · 03-23-2010, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by KCChiefsMan

Sorry, but one of my best friends sounds exactly like you. When you let them walk all over you and you just do every single thing that they tell you to do. I'm not going to go into it, but it's not good. I spent countless hours with my friend talking about this when he needed to vent and nothing ever got through to him. He's just pathetic when it comes to women and he'll never change and he's always going to cry about it. He's always going to drop everything on a dime for a girl and do whatever they say and when they say to do it. Women, no matter how nice they seem, if you let them walk over you they will and it will be a downward spiral to hell for you.

Short answer: Gots to keep yaw bitches in line.

03-23-2010, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Otter

Fair enough. Just keep in mind what you write on this board is out there for everyone to see and is archived by Google for your grandkids to see if they manage to trace it back.

Start living or start dying or better yet, shut the **** up on this medium until you figure it out.

What you're writing here MTG is something you shouldn't be making everyone's business.

Well.... I kinda disagree. This medium is cheap therapy. He's pretty anonymous as far as that goes. So, share away. Lord knows I've shared far too much out here and I'm not anonymous at all.

Otter · 03-24-2010, 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Well.... I kinda disagree. This medium is cheap therapy. He's pretty anonymous as far as that goes. So, share away. Lord knows I've shared far too much out here and I'm not anonymous at all.

You're a different breed Phil than this guy. You're like that guy in "Apocalypse Now" where the bombs are going off around him and Martin Sheen is narrating with "his boys loved him, he knows he won't be hurt". That's a good thing and I'm lucky enough to be in that category too for the moment.

I'm paraphrasing in that but hopefully making my point. Maybe not.

I'd suggest taking these matters off universal coverage until you get some shit straight.

That will be my last comment.

**Rausch** · 03-24-2010, 04:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Well.... I kinda disagree. This medium is cheap therapy. He's pretty anonymous as far as that goes. So, share away. Lord knows I've shared far too much out here and I'm not anonymous at all.

That was always my belief.

But I don't make the most intelligent life choices...

**Rausch** · 03-24-2010, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Otter

You're a different breed Phil than this guy. You're like that guy in "Apocalypse Now" where the bombs are going off around him and Martin Sheen is narrating with "his boys loved him, he knows he won't be hurt". That's a good thing and I'm lucky enough to be in that category too for the moment.

It's called "hubris."

Otter · 03-24-2010, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Rausch

It's called "hubris."

I'd say "resilience" is a better word.

keg in kc · 03-24-2010, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Rausch

That was always my belief.

But I don't make the most intelligent life choices...

Intellige--

Wait, you're supposed to think about this shit?!

Why the **** didn't anybody tell me? ****ers.

03-21-2010, 08:05 AM
MTG#10 Mammoth penis Join Date: May 2006 Location: Springfield Casino cash: $7014386	My ex had her baby last night... I dont know why Im posting this thread, just need to vent. I know I shouldnt be feeling this way, its been almost a year since my wife left but I feel like I just missed the birth of my own child. I knew it was going to happen soon and I thought I was mentally prepared but when her dad called me and told me this morning I quickly realized I wasn't. I cant believe I still love her after everything she's done to me and put me through both emotionally and financially. I would take her back and help her raise her baby in a heartbeat. Thats how much I love her. ****ing pathetic I know. When's this shit going to end? Its been 10 months and it still hurts just as much as the day I found out. Its so hard to keep face in front of my kids, they are so excited to have a new baby sister and I have to pretend Im happy and excited for them but its killing me. I know I have to be strong for my kids and I will but when they are gone I dont know what to do.
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03-23-2010, 02:23 PM	#487
KCChiefsMan AIC Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: West Roxbury, MA Casino cash: $10004900	Sorry, but one of my best friends sounds exactly like you. When you let them walk all over you and you just do every single thing that they tell you to do. I'm not going to go into it, but it's not good. I spent countless hours with my friend talking about this when he needed to vent and nothing ever got through to him. He's just pathetic when it comes to women and he'll never change and he's always going to cry about it. He's always going to drop everything on a dime for a girl and do whatever they say and when they say to do it. Women, no matter how nice they seem, if you let them walk over you they will and it will be a downward spiral to hell for you.
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